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I want to share my story, and hope that someone can help as the cuts
have stopped me from any chance I had of seeing my son again.
Last year my ex tried to take my son away from me to (Darvel)Scotland
the day I found Out was the Day she was packed to leave! I rushed to
the court house and paid £200 for a prohibited steps order to at least
buy me some time to get something sorted so I could have contact with
him. After a month we appeared back in court after a contract had been
drawn up and a contact order was put in place I felt there was no other
choice but for me to lift the prohibited steps order, for my sons sake
as he was unsettled I was happy in the knowledge that I'd b seeing him
every holiday, and having him christmas 2012
After we left the court that day she left with my son I couldn't even
say good bye. She cut all contact with me this was in the October, I
didn't have a forwarding address or a phone number. Christmas holidays
came, I knew what school my son was attending as I knew what area in
Scotland she was moving too so I'd phoned around schools, I was
liaising with the head teacher to check on his well being. As it was
Xmas and I had no contact with my ex I decided that I'd travel up and
go to the only place I knew he would be, if only just to see him. I
travelled 400 Miles when I arrived at the school I was met by the head
teacher, by chance my son was going to the toilet he was so happy to
see me but was only for a few minutes. I do have parental
responsibility therefore ther head had no concerns. I wanted to take
him there and then, but the head had to ring my ex.
With that I was Met by her family shouting threats at myself and
sister, the police had to be called, when talking to my ex she admitted
she was never going to stick to the contact order she just wanted to
get out of newport, and didn't care about my son seeing me. I was
mortified I asked if I could just say goodbye to him give him a cuddle
before we left. She wouldn't allow it. I was never a bad father I have
two other beautiful children. My heart is breaking. The police had to
escort us to the car as her family were waiting outside the school for
us. We left and exhausted all resources, going to the Scottish courts
trying to see what I could do, I had a contact order! But little did I
know or was made aware of was that it didn't apply in Scotland! I was
mortified the judge that granted it knew where she was going.
That day we had no choice but to drive back to Wales, we were at risk
of being attacked in Scotland there was nothing more we could do, when
I got home I was going to sort it legally.
But now there is no legal aid, and because of this I can do nothing. I
have recently become unemployed. What can I do? Part of me wonders if I
should also break the law, but I am not that type of person I just want
to do things right. So I'm appealing for help! I need to see my son and
I know he's missing me! This is my last option
Hi there 🙂
I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation, its always the children that suffer and I wish these mothers would remember that!
There is however something you can do and thats self represent. As you have experience of this when you applied for the PSO I wont go into detail as you will know about the C100 form and how the courts work.
Heres a link to the Scottish Childrens Law Centre and they can give you free advice about how to proceed.
www.sclc.org.uk
Give them a call and they will be able to give you legal advice and a way forward I hope! 🙂
I did try the scottish courts but they wont even talk to me without a solicitor. They keep saying I need to get a solictor to contact them and to stop asking.
Give the Scottish Childrens Legal Centre a call and see what they say. There is also an English equivalent if they wont advise you -
www.childrenslegalcentre.com
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