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hi guys,
i am trying to get some advice on my situation, i have been divorced from my wife for over 5 years now and have done everything asked from me, but she has now decided to completely disregard the joint custody order we have and stop me from seeing my children.
To explain further i recently moved from hampshire england to fife scotland for a new job i got offered, whilst doing so i made agreements with my ex wife for the order to stand but i would have them for their school holidays and also any weekends i travelled down to wiltshire to spend time with them during school term.
hence in my case my ex wife has turned round and informed me that my 11 year old daughter and 9 year old son want nothing to do with me and do not want to speak to me on the phone, plus they do not ever want to visit me in scotland ever.
but having been in their lifes since they were born and always seeing them on a very regular basis i.e more than 4 days a week since the divorce, i am very confused and upset as my children have always been a massive part of my life and i have loved them since they were born as i was the first person to hold the pair of them and i was the first person they ever saw and have spent most of their life's since the divorce trying to make them understand that they have done nothing wrong and that we both love them.
so my ex wife saying they want nothing to do with me is upsetting and confusing as both of my children have asked to live with me on a permenant basis in the last 18 months, but i found out that my ex wife has emotionally blackmailed them to stay there saying if they leave they dont love her anymore which i know is untrue.
But with all things as father's you will all agree with me that the childrens happiness is all we ever want as parents, so why do the ex partner's have to use the children as weapons against you??????
any advice guys would be very welcome o/
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