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hi every one, i havent been on for a while but im about to fill out a c1a form to go with my c100 for contact. my daugther lives with me and it has been agreed that her mum will see her every other week but it has to be superised by me until the 30th of this month, then its to be discussed that my ex has unsuperised contact. im not agreeing to this as i have a few issues,
one, i have just had an assessment carried out by social serices for my daugther to have counselling and he doesnt want my daugther to be left alone with her because of my daugthers state of mind.
two, at contact my ex has been taking my daugther to the toilet, i didnt think anything of it untill we returned home and my daugther would be stressed and quite upset. she told me and my partner that when her mum takes her to the toilet she tells my daugther that she doesnt want her living with me and she should be back with her. this has happened a few times so i stopped letting my ex take her to the toilet but im worried if she has her on her own for a long time what else is she going to do.
three, when my ex calls she pressures my daugther to talk to her every day, my daugther tells me she doesnt want to talk but when i tell her mum that she starts arguing saying she wants to hear it from my daugther which i think is unfair to make a 4 year old do, but again my daugther gets very distressed when her mum puts pressure on her, i have tried telling her to stop as it upsets my daugther but she doesnt listen and it ends up in a fight.
im sending in a c100 to sort out contact properly but i see all the pressure and what my ex is putting in my daugthers head a form of emotional abuse so it says to fill out a c1a form.
do you think this is a good idea as i dont want the judge to think im over reacting but seeing my daugther get so upset all the time and i feel like i cant do anything about it.
could i have some opinons please as i dont want to make the wrong move and it go wrong for me :-/
thank you for your time
...you could ask the Social Services if they consider that the counselling for your daughter is due to psychological/emotional abuse, if you can get that clarification from them then I would say yes its worth doing. Even if they wont clarify you could still put it forward as its still abuse.
Put simply, it is better to err on the side of safety so I would say definitely do so, and you have the assessment from social services to back up why you have done so. Realistically, you are worried that it might go wrong - exactly what would be the worst that would happen - that your ex would get the contact that she would get if you said nothing at all, so anything that improves on that (and I would say that you have plenty to go on) is a definite benefit.
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