[Solved] CAFCASS

I don't think there are any standard questions. Simply tell the truth and concentrate on showing that you are acting in the best interests of your daughter and your relationship with her, and avoid any mud slinging, and you should be OK.

Hello,

My experience was that I was being forced to respond to various allogations that my ex was throughing about here and there. Like the last person said, keep calm and avoid the muck slinging. By this very fact they will see that you are the "sane one" and want to play a positive roll in the upbringing of your child/children.

Good luck,

Bri

hi, im off to see casscaf tomorrow i can let you know how it goes if that helps

Thanks Bri101...I'll try to stay focused on what's true and inportant and thats the best interests of my daugther.

Martin - I would be very interested to find out how you get on, please let me know.

Many thanks guys!

hi harry
we had our meeting to and it went really well. the cascaff offier was really nice and we spend an hour and a half talking about how well my daughter was doing and why she should stay with me. we took loads of paper work with us which most of it wasnt needed but was handy just in case. she asked questions about my ex and i just answered honestly but threw in a little compassion toward my ex but still stood my groud that my daughter should stay with me. my daughter is only three and they dont want to see her because of her age. they are souly there for the children so if you concerntrate on them and what you can offer them and you should be fine.

i hope that helps

martin

Thanks Martin,

Really pleased things went in the best interests of your daughter.

My princess is only 11mths, I was with her from birth to 7mths, then on and off for another 2 months (relationship was breaking down in those 2 mths). Then the ex refused contact with no good reason. So now I'm at the stage of the first hearing with CAFCASS phoning me first (which I want to be prepared for), then meeting on the day. That's where I wanted some advice, mainly with regards the 'type' of questions.

However you've been helpful with your experience and as you say be honest and focus on my daughters interests, which is what I wa going to do.

Cheers

Harry

firstly i was asked about mine and my ex's past, how long we were together, what the relationship was like, then i was asked about when my daughter was born, how much involvement i had from birth until my daughter came to live with me. she asked me a few questions about my ex, her past and her life in general. she then went on and focused on how my daughter was doing while living with me and about her nursery and any other things we do. towards the end she asked me what i outcome i wanted. it all lasted about an hour and a half but i didnt have any phone call before hand i just had a meeting at their local office. i hope that give a little insight on what to expect
good luck
martin

Perfect Martin, just what I was looking for.

I appreciate it's 'case-by-case', nonetheless it gives me a heads up.

Thanks for your help.

Harry.