[Solved] CAFCASS - How Should I Handle Them?

Without knowing the detail of neglect it's a difficult question to answer.

Instead of saying she does this or that, say that the children need this or that, so changing the perspective. The children come to me with illfitting clothes, but don't follow that with she should be dressing them better, allow them to draw that conclusion.... another example, it's important that the children learn about keeping themselves clean, and brushing their teeth, this is often overlooked, although I understand that she may be busy, it's important to get them into a routine.

Thanks, that makes sense.

I think I might make some bullet points to have to hand on how to handle the more difficult questions they're going to ask, for when they phone me. For example, her and her partner are leaving the kids, both only 5, to play whilst they go and have [censored] and then my daughter is going to find them and walking in on them.

Let CAFCASS reach their own conclusions - so as has been said - speak about the impact on the children.

Once thing that struck me from one of your posts is when you say she goes and has [censored] while they are playing.

How do you know this? If it's because a child has told you tell them that - my child has said "blah" and I am really concerned that this puts them at risk as they are not supervised but also of course, a five year old shouldn't even know what [censored] is!

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Thanks, that makes sense. Yeah, it's my daughter who has told me about it several times on her own accord, as with most things I know about.

If that’s the case you should clarify that you don’t question your daughter and that she had offered the information of her own accord during the time she spends with you.