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Hey there,
Bit new to this and have a problem!!
The mother of my children and I are seperated, have been for a couple of years, I pay all my CSA money on time and all is correct. I work in motorsport and it is very difficult to arrange dates for me to see them and have therm over night. Just recently she has refused me access as I informed her (2 weeks notice) that I could not have them one weekend, not due to work but personal reasons now she says she wont let me see them at all unless I go through a solicitor. I have turned out on her dooirstep as arranged previous to the matter but she will not let me see them until she hears from my solicitor!! Where do I stand legally on this matter?? I wasnt married to the mother however it is my name on the birth certificates and the children have taken my surname. This Christmas is killing me as I havent seen them for a month.
Please help!!!!
Many Thanks
Rob
Hi Rob, welcome to the site. There are a lot of Dads on here in the same boat including my son, Im presuming the children were born after 2003 , as being on the birth certificate means you have parental responsibility. I would go to see a solicitor asap and just pay for a letter to be sent to her asking her to start contact again and state times and days and give a date for her to reply. If this fails mediation could be helpful in fact before you go to court the court will expect you to have tried this. A lot of Dads are now going to court by them selfs as its very expensive to use a solicitor and in April 2013 all legal aid will stop. It cost £200 to go to court for a defined contact order and this may be the way you will need to go as this then hopefully stops the mother controlling you. She obviuosly didnt like the reason you stopped contact that weekend and is now useing the children againts you
I agree with the above, but one more thing - I wouldn't turn up on her doorstep again, you may find that she calls the police and that's a position you don't want to be in at this stage.
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