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Trying to get my head around what the court process involves.
I understand that if mediation fails, ex-partner doesn't show up, my son will get a piece of paper
for the court. I assume this then goes with the C100 which he fills in and takes it
to the courts.
How much contact would you consider reasonable and realistic since the child
in question is 8 weeks old and not breastfed.
We have had the baby here in the past, 4 hrs twice a week.
My sons ex even mentioned ( thankfully all written) that she would consider
overnight visits after christmas.
Would it be reasonable to ask for 4 hrs twice a week but increase the time
say fortnightly by half an hour so it's not going to be too distressing for the
baby to stay overnight?
Can he ask for an Application For Enforcement at the same time?
Where does Cafcass come in?
What is a Section7 report?
Sorry..I seem to be a jumbling wreck today...
Thank you so much
Kirsten
CAFCASS: will look at how each person can deal / cope with the infant.
Normally the court instruct the agency to get involved,
You apply for how much time you can deal with and is reasonable and will not affect the child. Children are adaptable, all they need is milk and security / cuddles. Do not be put off applying for me it you wish.
SECTION 7: my gosh, now I found this un needed, but had to go through with it. CAFCASS ACT as note takers and watch each parent with the child for a period of time. Me it was 1.5 hrs, then they think they are capable of producing a document to suggest what is best for the child. They are very influential in court, but at any hearing you can cross examine the Cafcass officer.
I wish you luck in getting what is right for you and the child
Thank you Essjaycarp.
Although no-one wants to go through the courts voluntary it's the only option left open
to my son.
The child in question is my third grandchild and I have looked after the other two when
their parents went to work so I am used to dealing with little people.
With regards to applying for you......thank you for making me smile.
Take care
Kirsten
Good luck Kirsten
We are in a mess here.My ex has even stopped allowing my parents to phone the children, they are 5 and 2. They love hearing the grandparents on the phone. She promised the facility, then took it away with out a reason.
If you go to court and feel strong enough, get your son to represent himself. I assure you you can achieve a lot this way. I did it after spending 18K and running out of funds. I now represent myself in Family Proceedings.
I am glad I gave you some hope. You know what you can do and offer. Little ones are adaptable. No need for half hour stages! make it work for you. I assure you the opposition will not have your best interest at heart. You sound a good grandparent and can handle things. get together with your son , let everyone know how good you are, and get what you want, but have a good argument for it. ALso keep records and diary of everything as you go along.
Regards
Ess ( steve )
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