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Hi there, thanks for the advice.
my wife is now going to the solicitor to ask for care order.(we have contact order in place)
she said my daughter always cries to come to me and whenever she is back to her mum she complains about me shouting. I admit there are few instants.
my concerns are-
- What happens in a Care order(once she contact her solicitor)?
- what if she says that my daughter is not safe with me because of my angriness and shouting at my daughter. And if she ask confirmation from Social Service or GP about my nature of conduct and history of domestic violence?
- how can be prepare myself for this situation?
IMP: my ex wife asked me in a Contact Diary if she can take my daughter abroad for 3 weeks to attend medical treatment of her father abroad. I agreed to it in written.
Now she has booked the tickets and planned everything to go after two weeks.
- Can she travel abroad after asking for Care Order?
Any advice will be appreciated.
I'll leave much of the legal advice to the CLC - however, assuming that she has a residence order, then she can take your daughter abroad for up to 30 days without asking your permission. The fact that you have given permission in writing, the fact that she has booked the tickets, and the reasons for her wanting to go abroad mean that, as far as I can see, means that there is no reason at all why she shouldn't go - if you objected now, a court would certainly question your motives for changing your mind.
However, I'm afraid to say that if my ex was shouting at my daughter during contact (I'm the resident parent), then I would be looking at restricting contact very severely - looking back over your posts, you really are making it easy for your ex in court - the contact is a right of your daughter, not yours, and while the courts will normally encourage contact between both parents and their children, if there are concerns for the welfare of the child, then the court can say that contact can do more harm than good (there is some respectable research on this, if I recall) and potentially cut contact altogether.
I would say that you need to consider some sort of anger management program, both for your daughters sake and to give any relationship a chance, and to show the court that you recognise that there is a problem and are taking steps to sort it out.
Thanks for your response.
I understand that if my ex do apply for restricted or supervised contact, it will be granted for few weeks, not for long term, is it right?
Can you please explain more in detail about restricted contact?
Hi
Again, the CLC will hopefully give the definitive answer - however, own case, we have been using the contact centre for around 5 years now - the contact order defined the contact to be supervised within the contact centre initially and then unsupervised time outside the centre would be introduced and increased as my daughter felt comfortable. I still insist that there is 30 minutes at the start and end of the contact within the contact centre so that any problems are not simply a matter of my word against my ex, and the contact order does allow for any other arrangement between my ex and myself to be allowed (but I haven't allowed anything beyond this) by mutual agreement. I expect this to continue for at least another couple of years, until my daughter is old enough to safely walk away from any situation she is uncomfortable with on her own.
I would expect that you ex could be looking for a similar level of control over contact.
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