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I'm working through some options via mediation at the moment as regards sharing the care of our 3y/o daughter.
She used to have Mon-Wed at a childminders from 830 to 430 and Thursdays at my folks. Friday was wife's day off work so she took care and we both shared the weekend. Now, since seperation, childminder has Mon to Thurs care, and i'm working to negotiatie this via the mediation process.
My question to you all is, I'm working on a plan that involves me taking care from Sunday 0900 to Wednesday 0830 - Almost 72 hours with three overnight stays, which is almost 43% of the week but would you consider that the time i've covered in this 72h lot where my daughter is with the childminder, time where she is in 'my care' do to speak. My wife would collect from childminder on Weds night and take care thru to Sunday 0900, but would have two whole days (the Fri and Sat) of 'leisure time' whereas I only get the Sunday. but would have 57% of the week.
My second question is that under this plan, i'm looking after my daughter for the first half of the week, and wife is doing the back end. As we're likely to be living 18-20 miles apart, who gets to pick which school she'd attend. I have parents to assist with the daily drop off and pick up routines, whereas my wife does not, so i'd argue i'm in a better position. With such almost equal parenting time heading towards a shared residency agreement, who wins?
I'd rephrase the question, as it's not a case of anyone winning.
Strictly, speaking, you should education etc should be a joint decision, but realistically, if there is no agreement, as you ex has the majority of the care, she is classed as the parent with care, and a court it more likely to support her if it goes to court. However, I would say that at this stage, you really are best trying to sort it out through mediation.
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