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My self and my partner split up a while ago, both my children have my surname (Wilkins) recently she has demanded to change their surnames to a double barrel one i.e. Wilkins -Jones (her's). Without going into detail with regards the separation - the Alarm Bells are now ringing!!!!. Is this something I need to worry about?
Do you have parental responsability.
I understand that if you do then she cannot do this without your permission.
Regards,
Dave
She cant change their names without your consent. She can probably inform schools that they would be preferred to be known as......but passport birth certificates etc remain in the default family name.
yes I have shared responsibility, but she is the resident parent. the actual changing of surnames does not bother me it's the 'What has she got in the pipe line now' - this is obviously based on the previous 2years of experience !!!!
Hi,
I'm in exactly the same situation. I have shared parental responsibility and my ex wants to add her surname to the end of my daughter's name.
Are there any potential implications to this? Like at a later date remove my name completely without my consent whether on legal documents or just "known as"?
The only potential outcome of adding the ex name to your last name I suspect will be that the child will be known by her name only! I personally would not agree to it.
I have had the same . ex wanted to change there names and did so. checked with solicitor and she cant, I phoned there school and told them this and the school said they will use what ever the mother wants, after a solicitors letter they changed there minds. I personally feel very strongly about them keeping my name, mainly because my son is the only one to carry it on in the family. as for the double barrel that's just a way to worm the name change in , and will drop yours after a year or so.
andy
thanks guys for all the feedback, guess im going to stand my ground and say no - after all I don't agree with the law in relation to child maintenance - and I guess she wont agree to the law in relation to surnames of my children !!!
She could take you to court and ask for it to be legally double barrelled, from past experience the court very rarely object to this if the child is under 11, any older then this and the child's opinion is taken into account.
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