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i have left the family home 9 months ago due to our marriage not being happy. i have two small children 3 yr boy and 6 yr girl, they live with their mother at out home, go to school in local town. my wife is planning to move 40 miles away to a new town where they do not know anyone because my wife feels it will be better for her. the children do not want to move and it has not been discussed with them in any detail. my wife is also telling me when and where i can see my kids and telling me they cannot see any friends or girlfriends with my kids - no reason for this. my wife has had and now has a new boyfriend which stays at our family home most nights - i have never said anything to her about this and have not enforced or suggested anything as she has with me
Hi Griff & welcome
What reason is your ex giving for moving, what makes it better for the children? Generally, the courts won't prevent the parent with care moving anywhere within the UK unless it can be shown that it is being done to make contact more difficult. If she has family where she's moving to, or has a new job there, then it's understandable that she should want to move, but if there's no good reason, then it might be possible to have a court prevent a move.
As for contact, unless your ex has reason to think (and prove) that your friends/girlfriend are against the welfare of your children, then when you have contact, your ex can't say who is present when you have contact.
However, the first step you should be considering is mediation, as it's possible that you may be able to come to an agreement without court proceedings, though if you do reach an agreement, you want it written into a contact order.
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