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My ex-wife has recently moved and is refusing to allow the my children to let me have their new address. My children are not that young any more.....2 sons aged 20 and 19 and my daughter is 16.
I'm not sure where I stand legally on requesting their new address. I've spoken to my youngest son who has asked his mother to let them give me there address but she is refusing to budge, the impression that I get is that there may be an implied threat that if they divulge the details, they would be kicked out of the house. (she has done this before)
Its not only myself who has no way of sending birthday/xmas cards and presents now, it is their grandparents and ants/uncles on my side of the family that are being systematically cut-off. I'm at a total loss as to what to do next. If there was a critical family emergency and the kids weren't answering their phones (the usual case!!!) I would have no way of getting in touch with them.
I have used our employee assistance program at work but they advised to make contact with my ex-wife and try to solve this amicably. This would be the first time anything has been solved amicably since we split, if it did work! A torrent of abuse is what I expect in return so I'm trying to check out my next options for when this amicable route fails miserably!
Thanks in advance
Ritchie
Hi Ritchie
I don't think there is anything you can do as a court is not going to force this, and in any event your children are too old to be subject to any court order. I would try to maintain contact with your children as a priority - in the near future they may well move out of your ex's house (is there a possibility of them coming to live with you).
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