[Solved] Claims to Police

Im not sure Id make any counter claim.

What does she say she told the police? If they didnt visit then maybe she didnt tell them anything and is just saying this to scare you?

What does she say she is going to tell the police when she threatens you? Not a great situation to be in for sure.

You may want to submit a subject access request to the police if you wanted to find out, that may show you if there were any allegations made against you. Maybe....

You dont say what you argue about but could you consider relate or mediation to work through the situation as it doesn sound like your relationship is beyond repair and that may help you both get on track and communicating constructively.

Regards,

Dave

She has claimed verbal abuse. I got a letter from the police saying that she had made a complaint but that was all. She is using it to stop any discussion that doesnt go in her favor. It is beyond all repair. We have been living in France for the last 5 years. She has filed for divorce in the UK and is returning with our two children (6&8) some time this summer. She doesnt say when exactly. The immediate problem is that she wants me out of the house and I think she will make another claim to the Police to get her way. We have a large house and I can stay out of her way but this is not enough for her. She has also tried to contact my work as I told her that I might also move back to the UK to keep regular contact with the children

Try mediation to discuss the points you wish to discuss and avoid confrontation so she cannot make false allegations.

The only way of avoiding her making false allegations I guess is not to discuss anything outside of nediation or relate but you are vulnerable to false allegations in my opinion.

Others may be able to offer other advice but Im thinking just avoid her at all costs especialy if you submit anything to court.

Will she give you the access to your children you expect or do you expect to have to go to court?

Try and sort it all out amicably via mediation.

I don’t really know the way to say this or for you to really be able to protect yourself from the actions of your partner now she has reported you to the police following an argument.

The way I read it she has started to build a case of abuse by you against her….she has gone to the police with that first step of saying you were verbally abusing her…..

What comes next? Physical abuse - Domestic violence claims….they’re the ones you then have to prove your innocence over!
You’re basically going to be classes as guilty because you’re a man and she’s a woman and in a lot of cases the woman is the one being abused/beaten/threatened/scared to cry for help.

However in a lot of separation cases this is the way for a woman to get you out the house, to get you to comply with her demands.
Basically her way or the highway pal!

So what can you do to protect yourself? In all honesty report it to the police that you’re separating and are scared of what your ex is claiming she’ll do/say when she doesn’t get the answers she wants or you out the house!
Telling the police and asking them to record/note it in incidents does not show you as being a pathetic man…you may need to be able to prove your ex has been building a case against you by provocation and false claims.

However…first thing to do is write a letter (keep a copy) to your partner….ask her to discuss everything through mediation rather than arguments in the house with the kids there.
Be polite, sympathetic etc… but be calm….do not bite…if she wants to pick an argument or fight….be very careful about your actions/reactions.

Kennymac.....ive PM you.
Id expect your visit to the station to show on a subject access request as it should contain what information is held on the police computer.