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Just spoke to my daughter who was extremely upset on the phone tonight.
She was being looked after by my ex's mother today who is not keeping in good health at all.
Today, my ex's mother took a turn and collapsed. From what I understand my daughter was unable to get out of house to alert neighbour and had to witness convulsions and vomitting until she regained composure.
My ex then cut the conversation short and stated it's "not as bad as that" but did acknowledge that my daughter has witnessed her grandmother being ill several times in the past few months.
Now obviously I have ongoing issues with my ex at present but my daughters well-being is paramount.
What grounds do I have for ensuring that my daughter is in the care of someone who is not in poor health and that could jeopardize her own well being?
This is a separate concern to my other thread.
What if the cooker / hob was on?? What if this situation happens again?
>did acknowledge that my daughter has witnessed her grandmother being ill several times in the past few months.
My first thoughts are that if it happens once, then it's unfortunate, but if it's happened repeatedly, then that's certainly not. I'm not sure where to go at the moment on this - I'd be tempted to speak to Children's Services - any one else have any ideas?
As you're a little over a week away from mediation I would say, if it goes ahead, that you have an opportunity to bring this up with the mother directly.
If you have a genuine concern then, of course, bring it up with the mother. Mediation may actually be the best environment to discuss it. However if this is in any way a reaction to the allegations that your ex has made about you recently, and an attempt on your part to redress the balance, then I would advise that you say nothing.
You're at a very precarious point in proceedings. There's a chance you could resolve some of the issues and resume overnight contact with your child without going through the courts, but diplomacy will be the key to success. If you go in all guns blazing, then I fear you'll be heading to court having given the mother even more ammunition to use against you.
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