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hi i split from ex in aug2012 and was accused of threats to kill myself and my son which came to no charges in the meantime i was convicted of burglary and criminal damage of my own home , i got a restraining order due to that. I nhave had some harrasment allegations also for sending teddy bears and a letter and im on bail for that till 2 more weeks. I have had a hearing and been ordered sec 7 reports and i have alleged a lot domestic abuse from the ex who has no crim record. i have record for threats 2009 and violence in 92 firearms without licence in 95 and other minor bits and the police log disclosure showed some domestic related accusations of threats and violence with nfa. My question is . have i got any chance to see my amazing 4 yr old. Its been 5 mnths now and another 2 before im back in court after the section 7 report. the kids were put on the protection plan and i was accused of being fixated and obsessed by my ex. The police seem to have said that my threats that were actually allegations of thrreeats as i never said it should be taken seriously. I have no charges for any threats and no investigations for threats. I never made any and the ex also alleged that i had left press cuttings of fathers killing themselves and there kids. I lov emy son and ive been a great dad. my missus is cracked and back with her abusive ex now living in my house with my son who has never seen a man shout or be aggressive and i wonder how long before i may get to see him please if someone could have some idea. i have no idea as i think cafcass will recomend no contact. i have been living with my son since birth and he is now 4 and we were so very close. next hearing is for contact and discuss section 7 reprt. i have also been ordered to do dna test as she says hes not mine. i hope i remembered everything and i hope someone can help
a quick note to the above is that i made the allegations of domestic abuse in contact applications and to social services . accusations of her abuse on me and the kids. just violence and threats to me nothing too serious. i had some of it filmed a couple of punches to my head and such. she had made minor accusations in her residence app
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Realistically, looking at what you have said, you need to be going for supervised contact at a contact centre, plus indirect contact (letters, cards, presents, telephone calls at prescribed times) - it would be up to cafcass to say whether they think this is reasonable, but I think it could be a long road, but certainly worth going for. You need to comply to the letter with any restrictions that are placed on you by the court if they do allow contact.
thanks for replying im very very grateful.....what do you call a long road.... im soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo desperate to see my son. iknow u cant know but maybe some idea of what i can expect next. ive been waiting so long on the next date to come along for so long and its doing me in.....
How long's a peice of string? I've not seen my child in nearly 5yrs fighting it now just take it step by step and dont expect too much or be disppointed if things may not go your way if you can acept that then very bit of contact can be seen as a step closer and a little victory to yourself.
ivan u have to be jokin 5 f ing yrs no way i hope there are special reasons and i dont really expect 5 yrs surely
i've had intermitent contact a for the last 2 1/2yrs since i started legal action!
why do you think Fathers4Justice were formed? take a read of their reasons and you'll see that it all depends on your ex and how she decides to play it!
if she plays fair for what is truely fair for the kids then it'll not be that long.......but if she decides "how dare he challenge me!! by daring to take me to court" .... well then join the thousands of fathers out there and on here who found the control freaks and vindictive ones!!!
read up about representing yourself in court it could save you thousands£££.....i found this out a year after i started my legal battle and well over £8k was wasted on what i would class as bullsh*t...lies....and so many pointless waste of time letters between solicitors and solicitors time in jokes of hearings dragged out by one nasty evil b*tch not thinking anything about our son but how best to screw me over and make me give up!
well i'm near as dam it skint...i'm living on my own in a rented house cos i can't afford to buy...i'm not seeing my kid because she thinks she can do what she likes and the courts are p*ssed off with her finally after 2 1/2yrs....i actually feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel....however i've thought that before only to find its a.nother [censored] freight train headed with another load of her lies and [censored] to try and fight off.
so it all depends on how the ex decides to play!! and how much she wants you to suffer!!
ivan u have to be jokin 5 f ing yrs no way i hope there are special reasons and i dont really expect 5 yrs surely
Nope tried to get contact through 2009/8 and kept getting fobbed off and changing goal posts was only recently I found out I could self rep did try again to sort out contact without using the legal route but again have been told it'll be a court order that makes her allow me have contact. Not saying it will be 5yrs in yor case but it might not be sorted right away/ex not turning up at court/pre-arranged meetings etc.
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