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I last posted here on 15th March 2011 saying that the week before I’d had my 1st hour with my son since 3hrs Boxing day 2010.
My ex stopped contact at the Cafcass office and we went back to court 1st April.
The court ordered the ex to make my son available for ‘supervised contact’ at a local court appointed contact center….it has taken all April to get her to see them, and the first contact should’ve been 1hr today 6th May……..
Well what to say and where to start………..
I turned up at the Contact place 30mins early….she arrived exactly 2mins before I was to start my hour with my son…..15mins later the center staff came through without my son….
They tell me that the ex did not try to encourage my son….but more kept him cuddled in her arms preventing him and not being cooperative to the contact……they say this is going to look very bad on her in court and better for me…..problem is how are the courts going to make her do anything if she has not helped contact as she has today?
She has said she turned up but won’t be making “her†son not “our†son do anything he doesn’t want to do…….he’s 3 ½ yr old and has been kept from me his daddy since she got the court papers informing her I wanted defined and more contact than she’d allowed me the last 10months……
I’m getting to a point where I run out of funds at the next court session whenever that will be…..i have no idea how I can continue to fight to see my son when I don’t have any spare money and no savings….and do not qualify for legal assistance…….
I’m at my wits end….am struggling to cope emotionally and feeling very very desperate for help but no where to turn to.
Do I now lose my son because I can’t fight on? What happens now? I’m lost and need advice.
Hi
I presume the fact that you say you are running out of money after your next court appearance means that you currently have a solicitor? If so, my advice is that have a good chat with them to prepare you for representing yourself, making sure you understand all the procedures and like outcomes. Once you are no longer represented, the Childrens Legal Centre will be able to give advice.
Unfortunately, if your ex is not complying with the contact order, then you need to go back to court to get it enforced. She is in contempt of court, and they don't take kindly to that, so she is helping your case, and the court can impose severe penalties for contempt, including a spell in jail.
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