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Good Morning All, Ok so I finally have contact with my Daughter after going through the mill. I recently had my first contact where I was allowed 5 hours. Now my contact order stated that only I was to be present and not my current partner, nor can I take her back to my house. So I took her to the park and then to my parents house so she could use the toilet and see my parents (her grandparents) and bee spolied for an hour. Now I was leaving to take her for some food an hour before she was due back when upon getting into the car a policeman waved me down and said he was going to have to take my daughter as I had breeched my contact order. I asked him how and he stated that my ex-wife had shown him the contact order and it stated that only the father be in attendance. I explained to him why this was, but he was adamant. I refused to let him take her and then my ex-wife and her eldest daughter appeared hurling abuse waving paper around. Now I had already explained to her that morning where I would be taking her, but she denied it all. I was then made to hand my daughter over who was sobbing her heart out at being takes away from her father.
I did not want to talk to the police and he had to escort my ex and her daughter away as the abuse got worse, I remained calm and decided the best course of action was to walk away. Now my solicitor doesn't think i have broken the court order and my ex now will not answer my texts with regards to my next session does this mean I now have to go back to court??
I am finding the whole Britsih Justice system and courts are somewhat of a joke and the police seem to always back the woman up even when i explained the situation and the effect it was having on my daughter. I have asked for the police report via my solicitor as he had to formly caution my ex and her daughter. Also is this stalking, as she had followed me around for the whole 5 hr session so technicially again I wasn't alone, the whole thing is becoming quite annoying!
Hi There,
I would say officially that if the contact order states that only you are present at contact sessions then you have broken the order.
As for them stalking then yes I would say they have done "if" they have followed you, though I would imagine they would claim they were passing by or similar.
what are the reasons for the contact sessions to be with you and only you?
GTTS
Well just had a letter from my solicitor and it states I wasn't in the wrong. The discussion at court with regards to contact meant that it was just my current partner could not see my daughter. It was explained (I wasn't there at this point) that if my family (grandparents and aunty) were not allowed contact then that should be the same conditions for my ex-wife. It turns out that the police did not actually read the contact order and were going off of her word. So a letter has been sent and I am waiting for my next date.
The reason behind all this farce is because my ex is just spiteful, she kicked me out of the home as she wanted to spend more time out with her friends, I lost everything. I then get a new partner who is younger then my ex and the jealosuy bit rolls in. I also earn a good wage and overnight sessions mean she would lose a large part of this so no partying of a weekend.
The reason was so that my new partner wouldn't meet my daughter until we had a settling in period, the fact that the ex's new boyfriend is always there playing 'daddy' (a term which my daughter does not prescribe to unless it is myself) is still not recongnised as an issue by the court, as I have always said, the woman states what she wants and it's gospel, the man would be lucky to actually be heard!
I find it bizarre that the police got involved in this! I thought these were civil cases and as such were outside of their juristriction....my son had reason to call the police because of the mothers breach of contact and they said they wouldn't get involved! It seems to me different police forces interpret the law differently! :unsure:
If the police didnt bother to read the Contact Order before responding in such an extreme manner, and they got it wrong, I would seriously consider making a complaint. Your daughter was very upset by the action s of the police as were you...
Lets hope this behaviour backfires on her next time you are in court!....Still as we all know, the mother can do as she likes and its only the poor Dads that are held to account! 😡
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