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Hello everyone, I would be so grateful for you take on the following point from my contact order.It seems the ex an I don't agree.
"During the school Easter and Christmas breaks,the alternate weekends will continue but will also include one extra day and night,the parents to choose either the Friday or the Monday"
Many Thanks
I read it as an extra day/night to each weekend,but my ex is saying its only applies to one weekend out of the two .Am I being thick? as its pretty clear to me
During the Christmas break ,I have two weekends of contact, but she is saying the extra day/night only applies to one of the weekends.I disagree,strongly
I'm the dad btw, wanting the extra time on both weekends!
Many many Thanks
well it does christmas and easter not christmas or easter seems self explanatory to me ;;) . best have your solicitor send a letter to clarify to avoid further fall out.
Just to clarify, I have two weekends during the Xmas break, my ex is saying it only applies to one of the xmas weekends. I have extra days during the summer break,2 extra days and nights and that applies to all the weekends during the summer,so logic would asume that the same goes for xmas.
Cheers, and very grateful for your time and replies.
It does sound as though you should have extra night for each weekend.
Rather than the solicitor, it may be worth contacting the court for clarification.
Darren
I would read it on that on each of your alternate weekends that falls within the Easter or Xmas breaks an extra night is added to the weekend.
so e.g (im assuming your weekends are just sat & sun - else the fri couldnt be a possible extra day)
15th & 16th - mum
22nd & 23rd - dad - falls in school hols (as school broke up on fri 21st) so an extra day is given - most likely mon
29th & 30th - mum
5th & 6h - dad - I would argue this falls in school hols also as kids return on 7th jan, so extra day most likely fri, or else drop off to school on mon.
I would say that it could be argued either way - but I think it's something you'd need to get the court to clarify anyway, as, whatever our opinions, your ex is going to only believe her interpretation until a court tells her otherwise.
Hello guys, that's pretty much word for word.The point before it says the same but referring to summer holidays. The difference is that in summer we have an extra 2 nights added on, and the order states exactly which days,ie Friday till Tuesday at 7.30.The difference is that we are to decide which day over Xmas/Easter, but as they return to school on Monday, it defaults to the Friday. Does that make sense?
Can I say thanks for taking the time to reply, I really do appreciate it very very much.
No problem. However, as I said above, no matter how much we give our interpretation, your ex is going to stick to her own interpretation so the only way to resolve it is to get the court to clarify the matter.
yes, agree totally.For me the most important point is that my children 11-12&14 yrs young all want the extra time.
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