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Where do i start.....As per my previous posting, i went back to court for a variation to the current order as my health is being impacted by the volume of travel. My sons mum remained to be as unflexible and the court got quite annoyed by the fact that we cant resolve amicabally outside of court. I have been trying to but she refuses to budge regardless of circumstances.
The court explained that both of our lives have changed and moved on (new partners etc) but our son remains a constant ....i agree ....they said that they were going to get caffcas involved and set a new date to review if the order was working (in november).
Since then i have tried to arrange dates for the school holidays which is in the court order and she has basically told me that i can only have my son on the weeks that are convenient to her....due to work i was unable to have him for one of the weeks and suggested an alternate she refused as it didnt coincide with her partners annual leave. so yet again i have lost time with my son because its not convenient to her.
3 weeks ago i had my son and when i dropped him home he had just woken up and was upset that he had to go home, after giving him a kiss goodbye the door was slammed in my face by my ex's partner (exceptionally hard) i heard my son crying and then being screamed at (i am not exaggerating) by him asking what i had done to him. I was extremely concerned and called the police. They did a welfare check and was satisfied that my son was ok. I am meant to recieve two texts per week updating me as to my sons well being since this incident i have not recived any updates.
I have tried calling the court and was told that its only a contact order and nothing can be done until we go back to court in 3 months after the cafcas investigation, and even then we only have an hour and its to determine travel so may not be addressed.
I am at the end of my tether!! I dont now where else to turn it seems that whatever i do is not good enough, i feel that the contact order is there only to support her and not my son......what do i do?? how do i even move forward if noone is prepared to help. I keep getting told to be patient but to what end?? do i need to wait for my son to turn 18?
Its getting me down now and making me ill....im not sleeping and i just want to have a healthy relationship with my son....i feel that he is beng turned against me and i need some advice!!
Please help
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