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Hi, new to the group so hello!!
Where to start..... seperated from my ex-wife in august 2010, leaving 2 kids 2 and 4 yrs old, she is from Ayrshire, Scotland and Im from Llanelli, Wales, we lived in Wales due to my work.
When we split she moved back to Scotland to be close to her family, which was probably best for the kids sake as well as her. I regularly made trips to see the kids every month if not at least once every 2 months, we had a very strong relationship and I was a devoted father. This was costing me in the region of 2 to 300 pounds each visit, finances soon became an issue and I cut visits to every quarter and made regular calls 3 times a week at set times, this then became difficult as the mother was always doing something or going out somewhere. So calls became more infrequent and relationships deteriated.
It all came to a head in November 2012 when after a couple of months planning a visit (on the basis that the children were coming down for christmas) I was told that i was not having them down with me. This crushed me and I felt like there was no point trying anymore!!
I left it a month then messaged her on christmas morning to see if i could speak to them and she told me to get lost.
I cant give up trying to have contact so Ive been to a local solicitors, they wont help with legal aid costs as they are over the boarder, I've spoken to a scottish solicitor over the phone but they cant help unless I'm visiting the office to sign papaerwork etc?? I really cant afford to pay solicitors fees and dont have the means to borrow for it but I really need to get contact with them again and any support financially.
Any advice however small would be appreciated
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