[Solved] Contact with my son

You are not in the wrong it’s just a woman again using her child against you for disobeying her, well in your case you didn’t she just didn’t like it. and you do not have to have your ex with you lol, heaven forbid. . I expect her solicitor will laugh under his breath as she is going to look like a spoilt brat. But before you go down the route of solicitors you can do a court order yourself, its £200 and it’s called a c100 form for contact. You may want to try mediation first as the court are really pushing for this, it’s not cheap and I feel if the courts are pushing this it should be free, but it can cost £150 the first session and £100 per hour depending on how many you need. I wouldn’t use solicitors as it takes a long time and very expensive. I expect it’s a threat from her. First write her a letter to ask to restart contact and explain you will have no choice but to seek legal advice if she does not. if not go down the court route. She may even start contact again when she’s calmed down. Silly women!

Hi there

There is nothing wrong with what you have done, evveryone is entitled to move on, as long as your new partner doesnt have an unsavoury past and is upright and law abiding, then there is nothing to worry about. I would say that both parents have the right to know that their children are safe and sound and with people that can be trusted,and so it does no harm to reassure and give some background about the new partner. that works both ways.

I think it might be helpful if you consider inviting your ex to mediation. This is where you would both attend seperately and then together, to talk through all the issues, and with the guidance of a trained mediator, come to an agreement. Hers a link ~ www.nfm.org.uk

The next step, if mediation didnt work, would be to apply to court for a defined contact order. You will find two stickys at the top of the Legal Eagle section, the first explains all about the form you would need to fill in and submit to court and is titled "Contact Order C100 Guide" and is very helpful. The second is called "Representing yourself in Court" which you may not need as you have a solicitor, but its worth a read anyway.

Good luck with everything 🙂

...I would like to add that you should start a Diary and keep a record of all contact that involves your child. Keep all txts and emails, and log all contact you do have with your son. If you have to speak over the phone, then keep a transcript of the conversations if possible, or record them. In fact make a note of absolutely everything that concerns your son and ex. as this will be a valuable resource if you go to court.