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Can somebody please help me? I have not seen my son for 4 weeks now again, my ex allows me to have him when it suits her and is a very spiteful lady because I won't go back to her she is spitting venom and knows the only thing that hurts me is not seeing my son. I am at the end of my tether, my nerves are shot and I feel totally helpless. I went to the solicitors yesterday and was told that I was entitled to legal aid due to my low income, but it has now stopped and doesn't exist. I just don't know what to do, my ex's father is very wealthy and can afford the best. I just cannot afford to pay the legal system..................please help somebody and give me hope that I will be able to see hem again soon.
Thank you
Hi
It's a shame you are entitled to legal aid but it's too late to gain it.
You can go to court without solicitors and represent yourself throughout which is better than a solicitor anyway as the judge can hear from you and gain your emotions rather than a cold solicitor talking on your behalf.
I would maybe try mediation first though before applying for a court order as this may be quicker and allow access sooner.
GTTS
Thank you, I just needed somebody who has been in the same position as me to give heartfelt advice I really appreciate it, I will try mediation but the way she is it might not be successful but whatever it takes. Once again thank you.
Hi there 🙂
Its usual to have attempted Mediation before applying to court for contact anyway, so it's the first step! If your ex refuses Mediation then you will be given a form FM1 that you would submit to court with the C100 form, this is the form that you would submit to apply for a Contact Order.
Heres a link to the Mediation service and if you are on benefits or a low wage you will be entitled to financial help with this.
www.nfm.org.uk
If you have a look at the stickys at the top of the Legal Eagle section you will find a couple about representing yourself in court and one all about the C100 form and how to fill it in. There are plenty of Dads on here that have either been through or are going through the court process without a solicitor so you will get plenty of help and support here.
Be very careful from now on about how you approach your ex, there are a number of Dads that have had false allegations thrown at them as a way of trying to stop contact. Dont put yourself in a position where this could happen.
Another good thing to do is to keep a Diary about everything that is happening and record absolutely everything. It will help if you need to go to court. Mediation has worked for some so lets hope it will work for you too! 🙂
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