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Well… Contested hearing went well for me, but due to CAFCASS not being there and some missing details they didn’t have to help with their report the case would have not been right to go ahead my legal advisor suggested. What a F*ckin waste of £750 that was then!!!
CAFCASS report states no reason why contact should not resume! But she still fighting that! Well she would wouldn’t she because she don’t like people telling her the truth!!
However…..due to the ex’s continuing dis-abeyance of Magistrate’s court orders my legal advisor has convinced magistrates to have it elevated to County court in a couple of weeks. They did also give very strong words to the ex about her not being cooperative with ensuring contact take place and they gave her a stern warning!
([censored] – that’s just like me telling one of them chav rioters they shouldn’t riot or loot…water off a ducks back!)
According to legal Advisor this is a very good thing for me, because if the ex’s breaches any contact order they make then they have more power of enforcement than the magistrates would have.
Also they will question CAFCASS and her new found illness/disorder that she has now dropped in the mix that she didn’t produce medical evidence of to court, saying that its a direct result of the stress i'm causing her that has brought this on!!! [censored] - nothing to do with the chance she may have had this like the other sufferes....it just developes!!! not going to dwell on this one...but will is amazing amo for overnight contact to give her a break!!! Fingers crossed
so....County Court better for me?....anyone else had County Court experinces?
Now for what I’m feeling after yesterday’s farce!……..
Bewilderment that this is still not sorted or my little boy and me…..
Disheartened that she should be allowed to get away with all she has done so far…..
Amazement that I am still here and not dribbling talking to myself in a corner…..
Finally…..
Hopeful…….hopeful that her false accusations and lies are now unravelling around her so quickly they will show her for what she is…..a horrible nasty person who isn’t fit to be called a good mother……hopeful that the county court sees this every day and can see through her and possibly grant a little boy his right to have a father in his life….
Do I still have faith that the truth will prevail and things will work out for the best?......no…..i fear this is just yet another fight I may win, but still lose my son to her controlling and spiteful personality.
So yet another 2 weeks to wait to find out if I’ll be able to be a father again to my little boy…..
My son will be 4 at the end of Sept. and it will have been over 10 months since I last had a nice full 7hr day with him.
When this eventually ends and the dust and sh*t settles what will be left will be a skint and broken shell of the man I once was…..but if I get to make my little boy smile at one of my silly faces / bad jokes or magic tricks then it will all have been worth it.
Hi dad-i-dad
Do you currently have an order dad-i-dad?
First off, let me tell you that this is a good thing generally speaking (your legal advisor is correct), and although the money is a lot to spend initially in the long run it will be worth it and your battle is i hope now on the home stretch.
What illness is your wife now claiming? Is it something which would impact on your ability to parent? I don't have experience of County Court, however from my understanding it is overseen by a Judge, rather than a Magistrate (bench). Its difficult to say purely whether it will be a good thing as a Judge can make a wrong decision, but a bench there can be balance brought. In my personal case, all the Magistrates agreed my having overnight contact should not be prevented, and they all found in my favour.
Now for what I’m feeling after yesterday’s farce!……..
But at least your case is moving forward and hasn't hung
Bewilderment that this is still not sorted or my little boy and me…..
Again it is progressing, cases often take months grin and bare...
Disheartened that she should be allowed to get away with all she has done so far…..
She'll probably get away with a lot more, but don't worry it will progress and over time things slow down
Amazement that I am still here and not dribbling talking to myself in a corner…..
Suck it up 🙂
They will see through her. At the heart they will allow contact but only if there is no safeguarding or welfare concerns. It is being more of a common thing now.
I'll just let you know that most decisions and applications that are put forward to the courts are now passed. Which is encouraging.
You will always be a Father, more importantly you will be a Dad 😀
Well Done Dad-i-Dad, keep it up, your little boy is counting on you
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