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Basically, after a row with my ex wife, she now wants me to sign a contract that she will write up stating when I will be having the children and when I will drop them off. I don't think that I should be signing anything without it being legal. Would it be possible to talk to someone about this please?
Hi There,
Anything you sign that is written out by you or you ex isn't legally binding as I'm sure you know, You can have things written into a legal agreement through solicitors though.
Have the 2 of you tried mediation to try to reach agreements that suit you both and discuss the options?
It may be worth trying even if you have tried this in the past as, as time goes on it (although still dificult) becomes easier to reach agreements, the mediators normally have a service where they can have the agreement written into a legal contract for a fee.
Darren
Thanks Darren,
I knew, but wanted clarification if it would be legally binding or not. I've just spoke to Citizens advice and they have said basically that anything written up by either one of us wouldn't hold up anywhere without either being written up by a solicitor or witnessed by one. I have mentioned mediation to her before but she refused saying that she wouldn't go anywhere that would belittle her as a mother. She has misunderstood my intentions as all I want is for my children not to see us at logger heads. Don't get me wrong, I'm no saint, but its about the kids and not me and her.
At the end of it all, all I want is an amicable relationship so that when I pick them up and drop them off we can go through the pleasantries and politeness etc without it affecting them or them seeing anything
Hi There,
Pick up and drop off times can be tricky, My ex and I don't speak other than a quick hello when the door is opened, we have found that works for us and my son wouldn't expect any more than that (he'd probably drop his jaw if we did talk) where as my partner and her ex stand and chat and can act all civil with each other even though they could have been calling each other all sorts just an hour before via txt message, I guess the point I make is that what ever works to keep things low key at hand over times is the best for the children.
Darren
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