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I currently have my Daughter 4 times a week for 4 hours minimum, occasionally a few extra days and hours in school hols etc.
My daughter is 3 and starts nursery soon. This has occurred for the past year and before that I had her 6 times a week for 2 hours.
I'm just wondering would I have much chance of joint custody (I can not come up with any complaints about my ex although she does not always do things or makes the same decisions I would)
I have my name on the Birth Certificate but I basically want 50/50 split of contact, how would I best go about this and if its not usually possible what's the best I could hope for in terms off amount of contact.
I'm getting worn down by the constant arguments and battles to see my daughter on an almost daily basis but will carry on like this unless I'm guaranteed to be better off by going through the courts, I will obviously try mediation 1st.
I'm basically trying to establish if I would get 50/50 contact?
Regards Justme
Hi justmeagain,
I have been told that a 50/50 split if you will was, in my case, unlikely.
I questioned this and was told by my solicitor that it just did not seem to be the way the courts go as it seems not to be in the childs best interests?????
I have a 6 and 3 year old and initialy I was only allowed 1 over night stay with 2 hours in the week.
On the first court appearance it was changed to every other weekend Fri afternoon - Monday morning and an overnight every Wednesday.
I suggest that you may get something similar although each case seems to differ. Situation, court district, judge etc.
If you get agreement in mediation you can have it written up to be legaly binding so give it a go.
Regards,
Dave
Here's a link to a solicitors fact sheet about shared residence, it might help clarify it a little.... Notice the article clarifies that shared residence doesn't mean a 50/50 split, for that you it says you would ask for a shared care arrangement...might be worth looking into .
www.hughes-paddison.co.uk/news/Shared-Residence-Order-All-in-the-Name.aspx
Thank you NannyJane
Very interesting reading! Shared Care Arrangement it would be then, it's a minefield out there.
Regards Justme
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