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After my seperation from my ex in 2004 we set an agreement in place for maintenance to be paid by standing order at £200 a month. Things turned very bad in 2010 as my access was stopped and the children were taught by there mother to hate me. After a two year battle for access I backed out as my efforts were only causing long term emotional harm to my children. In January of this year I was landed with an arrears bill from the CSA £14000. I call and advised we had an arrangement and that I had made payments from 2004 to 2010 in total and approximate £12000. All my efforts of sending in bank statements appealing to the court and written complaints to the CSA. have all come to a dead end I feel so lost as the attachment of earnings order is £500 a month since January. My youngest daughter from another relationship is now in my custody and my new partner children Tom and Sam suffer due to this massive loss in our family income which is unjustified. I have tried talking, writing to the CSA but I am just meet with non sense answers. It took them eight years to process this claim which I was totally unaware of till January this year. I have spoke to a complaints manager at the CSA who states she has contacted my ex who states I have never paid a penny. Is there any way out of this nightmare as I refuse to accept that I have to pay her twice and that my youngest daughter should lose out. I have no issue in paying CSA in the here and now it just the so call arrear when she had reach an agreement with me and I have already paid her. Can anyone advise? :boohoo:
Hi I would contact your local mp they seem to have some clout with the csa. Take all your proof with you, I know other dads on here are in the same boat, hope they can help. I know in 2014 csa are being scrapped lets hope everyones so called false areas are too
Cheers AK57
Might be a good idea i have tried everything else think i will take you up on that
Will do I have just wrote to him will see what happens. Also just spoke to CSA again got no where told me they were closing my complaint. gonna try get conformation from the bank again also i relised i have some solicitors letter from her that confirm that i made payments i'm gonna dig these out and see if that help 😉
I agree with the above comments about contacting your MP - this seems quite often, and while I do agree that the CSA should be there to chase non-paying parents, I don't think it's at all right that they should disregard payments already made.
Incidentally, it would be interesting if this was ever tested in court - a criminal court uses the test of 'beyond reasonable doubt' and a civil court uses 'the balance of probabilities' - in either case, I would say that if someone was paying a monthly amount to their ex and was taken to court for non-payments, then either of those tests would surely return a verdict of not guilty.
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