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My partner recieved a letter 2 weeks ago from the CSA stating he has to pay maintenance for his 10 year old son. We have never had any other letters or contact from the CSA or from the other parent. We didnt know that he had this child as he has never been told. We have no DNA evidence that he is his child.
We live in rented accomodation, have a 2 year old and a 3 year old of our own. We also have debts to pay off.
This morning my partner checked his wages and over £300 has been taken out by the CSA. We have just recieved another letter saying that the next payment will be over £360 per month for a year until arrears have been paid.
As i said before we recieved our first letter 2 weeks ago, so why are we having to pay arrears? Also Why are we having to pay for a child we dont know is his?
When we recieved the first letter we sent back a letter showing all our incomings and outgoings and savings. We have no savings and after all the bills are took out of our incomings we are left with £2 at the end of the month to pay our debts. We also stated that because my partner works for a security company, they should NOT be contacted as it could result in him losing his job.
So they have obviously contacted the company and now his job could be in jeopardy.
As they have taken over £300 out of his account, we now have to decide if we dont pay some bills this month and get into more debt, or dont eat.
We were also told that if we wanted a DNA test we would have to pay for it and if it turns out that the child is his then the csa payments will increase!
Also we were told by the CSA that if we have the child to stay overnight 1 night a week then we dont have to pay anything.
Also we know the other parents name as it was on the paperwork but have no way of contacting her as the CSA wont give us any details, so we cant make arrangements between us all without the CSA.
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!!!!!!!!!!! IM SOOOOOOOOOOO CONFUSED!!!!!!
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