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:unsure: how do i start the ball rolling on a dna test as i dont think the child is mine i have serious worries that he is not mine she will not talk to me as i have not seen this child since he was arround 7 months old i was warned before we started the relationship (which only lasted 9 months) that she has had abortions to 2 other men while been with her boyfriend which he didnt know about if only i listened so if anyone has some good advice please reply to this
many thanks
dave
Have the CSA been in touch with you at all, or are you aware that your ex has approached the CSA?
What has your ex said about whether you are the father or not?
yes they have been in touch and have taken 40% of my wages as she said that i was on the berth cert i wasn;t there when she resgisted him, ive got a appointment monday bwith CAB with what my options are i'm royally screwed as the wife does not work and we have just ahd rent increase they said they have in contact with me since 2003 but they only letter i had was this week
If you think this child isn't yours, then you need to tell the CSA that immediately - you will have to pay for a paternity test, but if it proves you are not the father, then you don't pay maintenance from the date you informed them of this. In theory, you still owe the arrears, but I'd certainly appeal on the basis that if they haven't contacted you previously, then they have deprived you of the opportunity to prove that they child wasn't yours at an earlier date.
i have told them that im not the father but they dont give a sh!t, i have explained that i have neverb had any letters or been in contact with them i'm going to call them and explain that i even said hve you got proof that i am and they said thats for you to prrove
They are correct that you do have to prove it, and the paternity test is the way to do it. You have to pay for the test, and if it proves that you aren't you may be able to claim the cost of the test from the CSA. If the mother refuses to allow the test, then I think that is also accepted as an argument that you are not the father and so not liable for maintenance.
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