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Hello
I hope you are able to help.
My brother has a 19 month old boy and his partner has left him and taken the child, saying that she does not love him anymore.
My brother is distraught, as you can imaghine.
At the moment she is willing to offer 50% custody Monday, Wednesday then either a Friday and Saturday or a Saturday and Sunday.
This all sounds great and he is convinced that she will stick to it, I am not so convinced and do not trust her at all (they were shopping for bathroom tiles the day before she decided that she was no longer in love)
While she is offering 50% I would like my brother to get something signed, as at the moment he is hopeful that she will return and has his hopes pinned on that, I belive that once he realises she is not coming back that the relationship will fall apart and she will reduce access.
Are there any templates, procedures that you can recommend?
Many thanks in advance.
Hi there 🙂
I'm sorry to hear about your brothers problems and what a kind and caring sister you are to try and help him!
Unfortunately the only way to get get a legally binding agreement is to apply to the court for a Contact Order and as your brother is hoping for a reconciliation I cant see that he would want to rock the boat at this stage and risk alienating her further. However if at any time in the future he would like to take this course of action the forum is a great place to get lots of information and support. 🙂
There are a couple of other options your brother might like to consider though...the first would be Relate, they are an organization that you have probably heard of and they are experienced in helping families during a breakdown or breakup. The second is Mediation and these also help when there are disagreements or when agreements about things like children and finances need to be reached after breakup. Here are the links -
Relate www.relate.org.uk
National Family Mediation (NFM) www.nfm.org.uk
Best of luck
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