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hello i am new and seeking some urgent advice as i am in court Tuesday and rather worried, ive been going to court in relation to my daughter being under a sgo with grandparents, and they dont want me having any contact, i do have form from my past but my daughter is my only concern, on tuesday i was expecting my contact to become unsupervised as i have done everything the court has asked of my for the last two years, stable contact, drug test, parenting classes ,adapt i even found a recent press release from the grandmother saying i am violent and dont trust me, i havent been in trouble since 2005 , earlier this year (march) i reformed a brief relationship with an ex partner who cheated the previous year, whilst i was at hers we talked and she continued saying she didn't cheat, look at my emails, when i looked there was a screen shot of a conversation on fb with a male both making sexual remarks during the time we were together, i being slightly stupid posted it on her wall latter that evening 3 men come to her house to beat me up, that didn't happen as i armed my self with a knife after a few insults they left one hour latter the police knocked on the door i was taking in for questioning i was released half hour latter nfa, so i presumed it was over, where my ex partners children where subject to child protection order (nothing to do with me) this paperwork of the police account has been added to the court bundle with at the end children are currently subject to protection order, the children wasn't there, how can this be allowed and is it any thing to worry about i cant speak to my solicitor till the day of court , has this any weight of deciding future contact arrangements
I really can't answer that...it will be up to your solicitor to defend your position on this. As NFA was taken then it might be ok, you must direct your solicitor to make sure that the judge is aware that the CPO is nothing to do with you.
As you have complied fully with everything the court has asked of you, you just have to hope that this will carry weight and the judge will see that.
thank you for your response would it be wise in writing a letter about it, so it is made clear on the key points i really don't understand why this was not mentioned sooner, or is it a ploy to defend the sgo recent comments in the press, my ex partner is extremely unhappy about the contents of this paper, for one her investigation from LA is over and she has not given permission to share and feels its a data protection issue.
It's also contempt of court to discuss any case with anyone outside of the courtroom that is ongoing and concerns children...if the grandparent has spoken in the media about the case then they are in contempt!
The rule is usually that no further documents can be filed within 7 days of the hearing. If they've done this right at the last minute then I think you can safely say its a tactic. If you feel aggrieved then you could write a letter to the judge about it but you would need to send a copy to the other side, and with it being so soon before the hearing it might not be accepted. you would then have to make sure your solicitor bought it up on tuesday. I would get hold of a copy of the newspaper report to show in court, if it has breached court rules the judge will want to know....your solicitor should be able to advise you further.
that was my feeling about it being contempt and yes this was attached to my position statement my solicitor was not happy about it, i have wrote a short letter to hand in if on Tuesday my solicitor agrees it is to be handed in. it outlines that the CPO was not in relation to my self, are position statements was a 48 hour before and only on the 22nd did i find the media interview and these where all exchanged yesterday
Your solicitor will be able to speak about the CPO in court so he might prefer to do that rather than submit the letter, it's a good idea to have it to hand though, and have a copy for the other side too.
If anything to do with the court case has been mentioned in this press report then it's pretty serious in my opinion, it is contempt and needs to be addressed. Your solicitor should definitely make something of this but once the judge has been informed he should act on it. When you say they were exchanged yesterday what do you mean, exchanged with whom?
That good... You just have to push your solicitor to,speak out in court, if he doesn't you have the right to stand up and ask for permission to speak directly to the court. Good luck.
I would strongly urge you to speak to your Solicitor before doing anything.
The problem is that the children were on CPO and are under SGO with the grandparents. The reason the CPO was handed down was obviously because the children were in such a situation, whether it be violence, neglect, abuse etc. Whilst you were not the perpetrator, the children may have been damaged/affected by what happened, and it is the children that have to continue to be protected
What happened in March is an angry scene and there will be concern insofar as what anger issues you may have, although I do appreciate you have done all the things that the Court want you to do, they want to be sure that these incidents wont happen again, and in particular when the children are around.
It is contempt if they have spoken to the press and you must ensure that your Solicitor presses the point.
Where children are involved with local authorities, the police will already be aware, as they will have given reports in the past, and will update those reports along the way.
my child is on sgo, my ex girlfriend children on the cpo i was only with her for a week. its her paperwork been added to my case, the children where unaware of the events in march. as soon as the press release got filed, this came out a few hours later?
....your ex girlfriend or her children don't have a bearing on your case in my opinion, its not on that her paperwork has been added to your case.
The children are with grandparents under an SGO and you have had to undergo drugs and all manner of tests and courses, so I am presuming that there was a problem in the past
In any event, your Solicitor should take a strong stand on it 🙂
The tactics being used are grubby in my opinion....the grandmother is in contempt for speaking to the media about the case and then having documents that are unrelated to your case with your children tagged onto your statement! Get that solicitor to act on both of these things, that's what he's paid for!
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