[Solved] Daughter on the pill

Hi there,

about Contraception, your daughter's GP may provide contraceptive advice based on their clinical judgement, and they believe it is in her best medical interests.

*The age of consent to any form of sexual activity is 16 for both men and women.
The Sexual Offences Act 2003 introduced a new series of laws to protect children under 16 from sexual abuse. However, the law is not intended to prosecute mutually agreed teenage sexual activity between two young people of a similar age, unless it involves abuse or exploitation.
Specific laws protect children under 13, who cannot legally give their consent to any form of sexual activity. There is no defence of mistaken belief about the age of the child, as there is in cases involving 13–15 year olds.

I also think there should be an open talk with the boyfriends parents. I know it must be embarrassing for your daughter to involve her boyfriends parent but they need to know whats going on between the two.

On a personal note- speak to the boyfriend make him understand how you feel about what he wants from your daughter...and speak with his parents as well! I wouldnt care if this jeopardise their relationship as i think your daughter is better off with a boyfriend whos forcing her to [censored] 8)
My personal view

...I understand how you feel about this and you should have been consulted about it, but looking at the bigger picture, its better that she is protected. I would hope your wife and daughter will have discussed all of the implications with their GP...and its true that the contraceptive pill does help with menstrual problems, which can be really debilitating.

There are many parents that have no idea that their teenage children are sexually active or thinking about becoming so, I know its not much of a consolation but al least you have a handle on the situation. The best thing you can do is to keep the dialogue open and remain approachable.

Best of luck 🙂

I think the last thing you should do is approach the boyfriend or his parents! I would take a calm approach with your ex & daughter & have a calm chat with your daughter just gently making sure that she knows she should never do anything she isn't comfortable with.

Period pains/ problems can be very painful for women both physically & emotionally & it may be that this is a real help for her.

If you go barging in all guns blazing & shouting the odds, you'll make her feel terrible & embarrassed & she won't tell you anything again.

This may be a very genuine medical problem, or worst case it may be her being sensible & wanting to protect herself from pregnancy. You have to assume with a 15 year old that you're not being told the full picture, as what 15 year old does?

You have to consider in this situation with a child this age, your rights as a father with PR bears very little weight. Yes you may be intitled to the information, but what you can do about it is very little, so I would make sure I was there for her & knows she can come to you & hope that the choices she choses to make are good ones.

The contraceptive pill can ease painful periods and also regulate them for your daughter. If your daughter is sexually active (and I know we don't like to think our children are having [censored] under age but it is a fact that many are), then it is better that she is protected against pregnancy but I would also be talking about using condoms too. Even though the contraceptive pill can prevent a pregnancy, it doesn't always work (my sister had all 3 of her children whilst on the pill), there are also sexually transmitted diseases to be wary of.

Best of luck with this. Your wife and daughter must have an close relationship for her to be discussing things like this in the first place.

I agree with the comments - if you make an issue of it, then you potentially drive your daughter away and into a situation where she may not be safe on a number of levels. Ultimately, you may not be happy with her consenting to [censored] at her age, but the overriding concern must be her safety and welfare - her morals (and yours) will have to take second place to this.

..... as i think your daughter is better off with a boyfriend whos forcing her to [censored] ...

I presume you meant to type "without", and not "with"?