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My name is Jay and I am a father to two little girls aged 4 and 2. After a 5 year relationship Witt there mother we decided to go our separate ways. We have not always seen eye to eye their mother and I which has sometime resulted in bitter arguments.
Now it seems that my ex partners father has decided he wants this to stop and is threatening me with legal action.
My question is where does he stand on getting involved and what can I do to ensure that stays out of the situation in a legal sense?
Hi there and welcome 🙂
Its quite common for bitter ex's to make allegations of verbal or physical abuse or harrassment and get injunctions or non-molestation orders etc. This can have far reaching effects as far as contact with the children is concerned and some mothers have used this to deny contact. Just be very careful and avoid these angry displays....it doesnt matter if its fifty fifty, you could still end up with a whole heap of trouble on your hands.
I dont think the ex's father can involve himself if its between you and your ex, except as a witness... unless you and he clash, in which case he could report you and push for legal action.
My advice would be not to get involved in any arguments, its best for you and for your children.
Hi There,
Your ex father in law can't get too involved as far as I am aware as it isn't his place too.
If he is making threats I would report this to the police, You don't need to ask them to act on what information you give them but have it on record for 2 reasons.
1, If he acts on his threats there is a record you have made a complaint
2, if this goes to court again there is a record of your complaint.
At this point I would ensure you document everything that happens, start keeping a log of every conversation, txt or email so you are able to recall them easily if needed to.
I would suggest trying to see if your ex will attend mediation to discuss the differences and how to move forward.
Darren
Hi there
I would be careful of having bitter arguments - it is tough but they may all be used against you at some point in the future especially if the kids are present.
Father in law will probably try to make life as uncomfortable as possible for you - so pick your fights carefully!
Good luck
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