[Solved] Disclosure of childs address

Hi Mike,

If the father decides to apply for a seek and find order then yes you could be asked to declare your daughters whereabouts. There are obviously no safeguarding issues otherwise you wouldn't be facilitating the contact, and that would be the only reason for the court not to reveal her and the child's address to him.

That is so very gratefully received. The dad is a good man who only wishes to see his daughter for longer than 5 hours every other Saturday. I am torn between my daughter and the Dad but yet I understand the Fathers needs, I would go to collect her and my wife and I would take her back home on the Sunday. We are very responsible decent people and its breaking my heart seeing all this turmoil with a 3 year old Princess in the middle of it all.

The heartbreaking situation is that NO ONE understands what Grand Parents are going through. Its the mere fact that my daughter is reluctant in allowing the little one away for the weekend in case she never sees her again but that will not happen as the Father understands he would be in so much trouble his access rights may then be supervised at some future time.

Plus my wife would absolutely deal with him.

Thanks

Mike

You seem a really decent chap and should be applauded for taking such a reasonable stance.

I hope you can all work this out so that your Granddaughter gets the best from you all.

Regards,

Dave

Hi Mike,

I can only agree with Dave and applaud your integrity. I'm sure if anyone can sort a way through this situation you can, it will take a lot of patience and understanding but I get the feeling you are more than capable.

Have you thought of suggesting Mediation to your daughter? The distance is a problem but if they could find some middle ground it would be worth it...Court proceedings should be avoided if at all possible.

Best of luck Mike

Its my Granddaughter that is my priority. Although she and my daughter have never, ever looked so happy with their new life. There have obviously been issues prior to the separation. As long as YOUR CHILDREN ARE HAPPY.

It may seem strange to say but I know that there are NOT 2 sides to every story, there are 3.

The right, The Wrong and THE TRUTH.

I shall always continue to ensure that the Dad is allowed to be a Dad. Unfortunately the Dad's Mum isn't someone who shows the slightest sigs on intelligence and the dads father is a Frank Gallagher clone although he is a nice guy. The dad has never ever had a family to speak of and I feel its my duty to help him, he accepts this.

So lets see if TIME helps with this issue. Thank you for you comments they are appreciated.

Mike

I would say that mediation might resolve the issue - if an arrangement can be worked out without the father needing to know your daughter's address, then there would be no need for him to press for it, and although a court can order the address is disclosed, I wonder whether they would necessarily do so if there was no good reason to do so.

As grandparents all we can do is try and be the voice of reason, often our life experiences have given us greater tolerance and a more rounded sense of fair play.

In your case you are able to see the bigger picture and understand that in the long term what is best for your granddaughter is to have both parents involved in her life and making the effort to get along for her sake. Time may be what's needed here and with you working away in the background I would hope the prognosis is good. Best of luck.

I am not one to go looking for sites such as this but I must say there appear to be some really nice people here, Its such a lovely change to view and read comments from level headed people. There is a lot of anger simmering when people separate, its like waiting for a bomb to go off and when it does the only winners are the Judiciary. Lawyers are needed sometimes and people should be grateful for them but we live in such a complex society where everything is in the spotlight. Social media is a major issue, its the biggest Bullying arena on the planet and when I read comments about people who separate and "Lets Go get them for this" Lets Get them For That, no one thinks for a second about the little person in the middle of it all. Well thats my rant but hopefully now I have both my daughter and the Father actually speaking ....at times and appearing to be rational. Goodness only knows what would happen if ALL parties, Parents and Grandparents took a rigid stance on all matters. The poor little children would ALL suffer.

good to hear you have them both talking ping1golf.

Wish my ex would seek mediation and an agreement, she has agreed that she is my daughter in front of the magistrates, i just wish she would see sense stop all the abuse and accusations she says about me, and come to an agreement and keep that agreement, for my angel's sake.

She will be one next week and I havent seen her since she was 3.5 weeks old, she has missed out on so much already in her little life so far, she only has one grandad, my dad, and a granmother who absouletly adore her, wish my ex would get it into her head that it is her right to get to know us.

Both the Father & my daughter have now agreed to meet in centre ground. My granddaughter visited a few weeks ago. I travelled for her, brought her back, she stayed at my house for the weekend. Father had unrestricted access for the weekend and all was fine. My wife and I took the child back and all appears well.

Its still a knife edge though, you are always waiting for the wheel to come off.

When I see how happy my daughter is in her new surroundings and how my granddaughter is flourishing , I appreciate that things were not right in the original relationship but thats another matter.

The little girl is fine and regards her visits as a Little Holiday.

Why don't people look at being reasonable and put the children's welfare first ?

Stressful times for all but Im sure with the input of a cool head like yourself things can only get better.

I am really pleased that you and Father made your Granddaughters "ilttle Holiday" a success.

Best wishes to you all.....

Regards,

Dave