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Hi all...first post here.
Hi Andy,
I honestly don't know what to suggest, as I have no experience of divorce law. I would imagine that you have very little control over what she actually states as her grounds for divorce. One would think that you would have an opportunity to rebuff any inflammatory remarks.
One of the other dads may have some advice, but you may be better off seeking out a solicitor and having an initial consultation. Most of them offer a free 45 minute consultation.
Are you using a family mediation service? If so, what is your proposal for contact and how does this differ to that of your ex?
FM '70
So you're all living under the same roof? You, her and the kids?
I would imagine that if you had a drink or anger related problem, she'd have surely moved out and taken the kids with her by now?
How old are your children?
I think you need to take legal advice regarding the divorce, as it can get very complicated.
Hopefully mediation will be a productive experience and you can agree a level of contact that you're happy with.
Good luck!
FM '70
Most of the other things like finances, the house etc., are working out ok. There are signs that matters regarding residence will find some compromise I'm just not really happy signing a petition that contains wording that I'm not happy with or may not even be true. I've not even seen it yet as I was only told last week that she'd put it in.
Guess I'll have to speak to a solicitor as I can't find anything online about how you dispute the wording of a petition. I certainly don't want to defend the divorce itself.
Again...thanks for your replies.
I would certainly speak with a solicitor. Perhaps you could exploit the free intitial consultation that most firms offer and go see two different firms? Just so you have a second opinion, so to speak?
If it came down to it, you could actually represent yourself over the issue of contact/shared residence. That's something that we could help you with, but the divorce side of things is probably best dealt with by obtaining professional legal advice.
It does sound as though things are quite amicable at the moment and matters haven't descended into the acrimony that usually accompanies a divorce. You should both be applauded for that, because it's not an easy thing to do:)
FM '70
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