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hi all, after splitting with my wife over three years ago, i havent been able to see my three children since. i cant afford the court route, and whenever i try to make contact with my children, police turn up, over harrassment issues. i want my children back, but need to do it properly, and legally. thanks.
take a look at yoji's "guide to representing yourself" on the legal eagle section - that's a good starting place if you go the court route. The first thing to try is mediation - try www.nfm.org.uk
Just a thought about harassment.....it works both ways pal!....if you're not harassing her and its just her trying to use the police to intimidate you then thats her using the police to harass you!!
keep records of every conversation and messages these will ome in handy to help you prove that she is the harasser should you go down the court route.
most solicitors do 1/2hr free sessions for legal advice, it may be worth going along to one or to if you;re cheeky enough to get an idea of how you stand with what you have gone through so far.
then armed with a little info come back here for some good old experienced based info.
there are quite a few guys on here going through this so remember that you're not alone in the world and there are a quite a few of us either still fighting or have gone through the courts representing ourselves quite well.
Yoji's Guide to Representing yourself is very thorough and will save you thousands for just hard work and good preparation on your part.
if you are not guilty of harassement (i'm not saying you are!) then why not make a complaint to the police about your ex using them to harass you...make sure you are clear that you are not blaming the police but that you are blaming her for harassing you using the police as her weapon to intimidate you......its worth a shot...if you manage to prove you're not then thats a weapon you can then use in court as youre defence.
Hi and welcome 🙂
Self representation is so doable and as dad-i-d says preparation is the key. Keep a diary and record everything. Dont approach your ex, always do it through a third party such as the mediation service. If your ex refuses mediation then court is the next step. It costs £200 to apply for a contact order. Because of the time that has elapsed since you last saw your children you may only be granted supervised contact at a contact centre, which may even start with indirect contact by telephone or in writing. This will be for a set amount of time until the bond with your children is re-established, it will take time but with patience and perseverence you can get them back!
Good luck with it all and dont giver up hope 🙂
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