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My ex has stopped me seeing my little boy and even stopped telling me anything about him 🙁 I'm paying money weekly but thinking why should I give her money if she won't let me see him or even let me know how he is!!! I don't think it's right she has can do this to me!! All I want is to see my boy 🙁 please could someone tell wot I need to do first as I've not got a clue 🙁
try asking her what her issue with her stopping you seeing your child...always use the words "our son" or "our little boy" however you would normally refer to him.
if she won't tell you or comes out with a load of rubbish then ask her if there is a way to compromise........if she's not prepared to suggest mediation......if she refuses then tell you'll have no other option left but to seek a contat order and take her to court for contact.
don't do or say any of these in person or over the phone without an independant witness......emails...text message or letters....they all bear witness and should you finish up needing to prove you're not harassing or you've offered her options in a reasonable way then you'll have written proof.
from this point keep a copy of all emails, letters, texts between you both.....keep a diary of events, any argument or incident write it down as soon as you can while it's fresh in your mind....you may need theses should things go the way a lot of us have found with nasty ex's!
I agree with d-i-d above - what you mustn't do though is to stop paying maintenance - firstly because it will land you in more trouble, and secondly, whatever the disagreement is between you and your ex, it's still your son you are paying to maintain and that shouldn't change whatever else is going on - don't forget, your son is the innocent in this.
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
