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Hi all,
currently I have a contact order in place, which was acheived by agreement with my ex after a 3yr court case. I was represented by a solicitor and barrister through this. The order was made 18 months ago, but over the last few months my ex has breached this 11 times, and has again breached it this weekend and reduced my contact over christmas, too.
I applied ex parte to have the order enforced, this time representing myself. The Judge refused to make an order on it at the time, and has instead listed my case for the new year. I intend to represent myself and I was wondering if you could give any information on what to expect, or any other help?
This is a great site, by the way and I thank you in advance for your time.
Lx
Hi, sorry you are going through this yet again. I would make notes of all your missed and changed contact dates and reasons why . keep all emails and text, try to get her to do it by email its easier to print and text can be mis read, stick to facts. Why do you think she is doing this ?
Hi ak,
she has offered no reasons. On occasion she claims he doesn't want to come, so doesn't allow contact. As for why I think she's doing this, well, I can only speculate. She has a new partner who I think has something to do with it. She's pregnant, too. I don't want to say too much on a public forum, just incase she sees the posts, suffice to say that not one woman in her immediate family have any kind of relationship with any of the Fathers of any of their children.
My son is now 5 and we have a great time together, and there is no reason why he wouldn't want to come. She is very inconsistent in her moods and attitudes and always has been. She is very much 'my way or nothing at all,' and it is often difficult to gauge just what that way will be. She is a great mother to my son in many ways, just not when it comes my relationship with him.
It does seem like she is trying to push you out so they can create a new family and seems like the whole family have a history of doing this.
well she cant and you need to be strong and explain to the judge. A court can order a child to see his Dad, but i bet hes been persuaded not to come with bribes etc from the mum.
yeah, unfortunately that may be the case. I feel it's more his 'step Dad' though, who is an alright guy, just very much 'Alpha male.' I also think it has alot to do with her mood, in that my son may be reflecting her attitude toward me. Of course, when she's claimed he's been reluctant to come and she's managed to 'persuade' him, he shows no signs of reluctance what so ever. Especially if Tom & Jerry is on! 🙂
i can't begin to say how similar your situation is to mine.......virtually identical from what i'm reading!
i'm enforing my contact order due to my ex's continual breaking of contact orders. i do know in my case the Judge has already worked out how bad my ex is and i'm very confident that at the end of Jan she will get the [censored] kicking in court she so desperately needs to wake her up to the reality that this is not me trying to hurt her! its me trying to stay in my sons life!
good look and keep strong!
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