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Good afternoon to all,
I would be grateful for advice on establishing contact
I am new to the site after coming to terms with my marriage breaking down. Despite my best efforts to change jobs, disown family and friends, doing a majority of childcare, getting a cleaner for the house, accumulate huge debts in my name to support my wife, counselling, seeing a psychotherapist, on top of being physically abused - this was not enough.
We have two children and she has changed the locks. I have seen a solicitor and will be in touch again on monday - they had advised to write to her. She ignored my letter and so I have texted her.
Any suggestions for what I can do next? She is incredibly manipulative and has stated previously she will make this as difficult as possible and expect not to see the kids for 6 months as she drags her heals, and expect at best I will see the kids (4 months and 3 years) every other weekend at best. And she plans on moving 150 miles away to make weekend contact difficult.
BW
Did you keep the texts? I'm sure a judge would love to see that. You can also apply for a prohibited steps order to prevent her from moving, All corrospondance send recorded/tracked delivery. Ensure that all child maintance money is set up on the standing order was maintance(childs name) Dont get arguementive on the door step not good for the kids and you might find yourself with a non-molestion order.
If you can hang off until April the legal aid money is stopping for family cases unless there has been DV. Any debt you take on from the marriage will need to be taken into account when working out maintance payment.
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