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Hello Moderators,
Been with my ex-girlfriend for 18 months, we have a 7 month old daughter. 2 weeks ago my girlfirend dumped me after we had a few problems (nothing a couple can't work through).She's allowed me to see her 4hrs the first weekend and 6hrs the second week. At the beginning of the 2 weeks she contacted mediation, we've recently had the intro and await the first meeting date.
The ex continues to say horrible things about me by text and in front of me, like...I'm incapable of looking after my daughter, in 6mths I don't know what to do, can't prepare her food properley...basically I think she's doing it to discredit me on purpose. I'm very capable, since she's been born, I've done all the daddy things, prepared bottles, fed her the bottles, changed her nappies, rocked her to sleep in my arms, lots of love and playtime, providing everything for her both material and financially.
I know my ex is taking Amitriptyline (10mg) (treatment for depression, but she uses it for treating her headaches) and the side effects include irrational behaviour to name but a few, which I feel is contributing to this situation. I therefore feel she could be unstable. Can you advise if theres anything I can do in the iterim of the mediation and more importantly how do I stop her making stuff up about me???
Many thanks.
Hi There,
All I would say is try not to respond to these txt you recieve and shrug off the face to face comments also, she may be trying to engage you into a public arguement where you may discredit yourself (especailly if the police are called) It may be hard to hear her say these things when they aren't true but that's your higher ground....they aren't true.
You will never be able to stop her making things up as you have no control over that, Like we always say on here you need to pick your battles and concentrate on things you can have some control of.
Make sure you keep all the txt as well as any replies you have sent her and all future txt also as you may need them.
Darren
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