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I was wondering if you could help me I'm desperate. My ex girlfriend fell pregnant in February with my child, i went to the first appointments and screenings and she always told medical staff the child was mine. Two months after that I suffered a nervous breakdown and we split up. In the months after I struggled but eventually got better and pulled myself round in late August, my main goal was to get ready for my child and to prove to everyone what a great dad I could be I contacted her in early September, to see if we could meet up and discuss the child amicably. She became very bitter and angry and said that the baby wasn't mine and that she had moved house and refused to meet me to discuss things. I've asked for a paternity test, because I do believe the child to be mine. Can you help me, do I have any rights.
Hi there,
Has the baby been born yet?
I think even if you are left off the birth certificate you can apply to the court to be recognized as the babies father. If she then denies you are the father, the court may ask that a DNA test be done.
Try talking to her again, make her aware that you are prepared to go to court if necassary, but that it would be better if you could both sort it out amicably, as once the courts are involved the Social Services and other professionalls become involved too. This may make her realize you are serious about playing a part in your childs life. Good luck!
No the baby isn't born yet. I've tried reasoning with her, but she just sends me nasty replies, she has got it into her head that I've been living the life of riley, when I've genuinely been I'll. I was hoping she mellowed a little when the child is born.
Pregnant women are notoriously emotional! My advice would be to keep trying, have you asked if theres anything she needs for the baby, you know, everything is sooo expensive....she might appreciate some practical help right now.
just bear in mind that she will be going through all kinds of emotions, fears about the birth and concerns about the baby, these are natural but something that all pregnant women go through! She'll be feeling frumpy and unattractive and she probably wont be sleeping well as she is near the end.
keep a diary of all the things that you can use in court because one day you will be there and its a tough battle. you need every ounce of evidence to prove who you are.... on the same note be prepared for anything that you do to be twisted and supplied as evidence against you. be very careful and i hope things work out.....do not brreak the law or even get close or you will find it hard. watch your emails and texts and your actions. its nice for jane to be pasitive but the reality is scary... be ready for a big fight to stay in your childs life. dna test will be easy as court will order it and then its contact and all that heartache. good luck
rob007 would you like to do a new post and share your story, as it sounds like you have been or still going through the fight , it may be of help to people
Thanks
Beefy
could you get your mum or a friend to get in touch with her and ask if she needs anything , it might be best to have a third party involved at the moment
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