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hi everyone this is my first time on here and am having a few problems with my ex, basicilly shes controling my visits at the min there all at her house iv still not took my daughter out yet shes months old now shes using the am breast feeding as to why, even though shes on bottles as well. my bigger issue is am not happy with how shes controling what i do with my daughter shes using the sitution to her advantage so am wanting to no what my acess rights are if i go to court and do evrything by the book, only problem iv got with that now is shes said if i go down that road she will stop me seeing my daughter till court sorts it out, i have no idea what to do does anyone have any advice or know what my rights are in terms of acess and visits.
thank you ryan.
Hi Ryan and welcome.
Unfortunately, this isn't uncommon. The problem is that she is the parent with care, and at the moment can control when and where you have access. I would say that at the age your daughter is at, and if she is still breastfeeding, then you have to expect that you aren't going to be able to take your daughter out for long periods, but little and often would be reasonable - perhaps short walks with her in a pushchair would be a good start. I would say that the first step is to discuss with your ex the option of going for mediation as it's possible that this may have a positive outcome at this stage.
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