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dear all,
some advice please.
my daughter is 11, and i have a contact order for 4 years. since the order the order things settled down for a bit, but have deteriorated badly in the last 6 months or so. she is emotionally manipulating my daughter to turn against me. its quite shocking the legths my ex will go to, to make my daughter get emotionally involved with vengence towards me. she blackmails me for more money, saying 'you cant see your daughter unless you give me more money', wont let me talk to her on the phone, whilst telling her lies about me and my new wife, saying i have done bad things (which i haven't done'), to get our daughter to take sides with her against me.
now my daughter does't want to sleep over on the 2 nights a week i have had her for the last 4 years, and often i cant see here at all...
there is a label for this kind of phenomenon, although i dont think its widely recognised in the UK. in the USA its called 'parental alienation', and is partly recognised by the courts there as a form of emotional abuse. if you google 'the signs of parental alienation' you will be amazed at how closely the discription fits with how many single mothers act in this way. its almost uncanny, like its some kind of diagnosable condition.
perosnally i find it sickening how one parent (usually the single mother) will quite happily cause there child emotional pain when using them as a weapon of emotional warfare against the father. the problem is that it is so hard to prove (or even spot for 'mother biased' social workers).
any advice on this please!
paul uk
Really think you should write down everything thing that happens, keep it dated. Also, keep any emails or texts that prove any unfairness or blackmail. This should help you prove what's going on.
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