[Solved] ex moving my kids to america

I have no idea on this - there isn't a court order, so I she would't be in breach. I wonder whether it would be worth ringing the American embassy to ask their advice on this. If you are prepared to let them go, it might be worth setting up skype now and getting them used to having video chats with you.

Hi chlojosh,

If you disagree with your children moving abroad then your ex must have a Court Order to permit this. She needs your consent, or a Judge's consent to authorise the move on the grounds of XYZ.

You can contest the move, and also Residency as a result of this. One thing to consider is that at 10 and 12, your children are getting toward the age where they will want to make their own decisions and choices anyway. It may be worth asking them how they feel about the move. Do they/Are they aware that it will virtually cut all contact with you?

The choice is entirely yours, if you agree... a sensible thing to do is to sit down with your ex and agree a set of dates throughout the year that they can come over. I would also say, that as she is the one who is moving i'd push that she pays for the majority of the plane tickets.

If however you disagree, you will need to say you disagree and prepare a case for Courts. Writing to her or her Solicitor will give you a formal basis for your objections to the move.

Thanks guys, so basically I need to speak with my solicitor and put my case forward that I disagree with what she's doing? The last thing I want is to only see them once a year, twice at best. I have them loads at the minute, I taught them both to swim and ride bikes, took them for their first days at school, all those things, while their mum stood back and did her own things. It's so unfair. I've asked them both several times if they want to go, both say no, as all their friends and family are here, my lad goes to my parents house daily on his bike on route home from school.
Whenever I challenge her for info regards the move it creates massive friction and she will go out her way to ruin my time with the kids, ringing to offer them things, treats or money and days out that never materialise. I recently had one of the usual calls off my daughter, asking to move into mine after yet another fight with her mum, I went round to pick her up, and rightly or wrongly I recorded the event on my iPhone, recording a torrent of abuse against me and my daughter, them locking her in the house, I had to keep my calm and walk away, I managed to take my son for a night out the way, if they move abroad I won't be there to help.

Hi chlojosh,

Yes, definately.

Given your disagreement, she must approach the Courts to have permission to move. This of course will involve a CAFCASS interview of the children. Their views/wishes will be within the CAFCASS report. A sensible Judge would seriously consider these.

You should be approaching it from a few angles. Residency, is something that you should be considerate of, their position and views and finally how you would support contact with their mum plus maternal family. Your Solicitor will probably advise the same. But as with any of these types of cases it is usually extremely difficult to have a transfer of residence awarded.

You've mentioned in pro: your current regular contact, friends, family (visiting nan), schools etc. If applying for Residency, these are things that are useful to be raised. (As an example).

The fallouts, although painful can be quite common between mums and daughters. Not being derogatory, but girls are far more hormonal and difficult to deal with aged between 9-14.