[Solved] Ex not giving me information about my son

Hi Tel,

If CAFCASS has already completed any reports they were asked for by the court then they would probably not want to get involved....if that's not the case and they are still compiling a report then you could call and discuss it with them.

If you have additional information that you wish to submit to,court you can write it into a statement or a letter and send it in to the court to be filed with the rest of the case documents.... The judge will read through these before the hearing. If you choose to do this you will also need to send a copy to her or her solicitor.

Bring it up in court in front of the judge if you haven't put it in your statement to court.

i've had similar issues with my ex refusing to tell me when my little one started school and where he was going etc... but in court the judge told her i have a right to know.

I must admit it was my understanding that I would have a right to information regarding the welfare of my son when in the care of my ex. Obviously when she has him then I have to trust her as a responsible parent and that is not an issue, but when I am made aware that she hasn't had him on a particular day then I felt she has a duty to inform me as to who's care he has been in, and the same applies with me. I certainly intend to include it in my statement.

Do you have any reason to have concern for who is looking after your son? If not, I would do no more than a brief mention of the matter in court and leave it at that - you don't want the court to think that you are going to bring up every last small detail, so it's a matter of looking at the bigger picture and how you come across to the court - you want to get them on your side as much as possible. With any luck, the court will pick up on it, and ask you to expand, in which case you then have the green light.

Of course, if you do have concerns, then yes, do raise them in court.

actd, understand what you mean as don't want to come across with too much negativity in court. However, surely it is impossible for me to determine if I have concerns about the person looking after my son without ever being told who that person is? Also, I feel I am initially right to be concerned as to the reasons my ex refuses to tell me. I absolutely guarantee that if she saw me out somewhere without my son when he was supposed to be with me, she would demand to know who was looking after him....and I wouldn't hesitate to tell her.

I see your dilemna. OK, I'll rephrase then 🙂 Be careful how you raise it in court - try to do so in a way that shows concern for your son rather than being negative about your ex. Your last point could be a good addition to show you would happily be open about it.