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I have just been given an ex parte non molestation order. I cannot believe what my ex has done.
To give you some background we had been both living in the house but In February I moved out as i was scared that she was going to say I had done something to her as she has said she would destroy me and lie and lie to get me locked up (some of what she has said to me I have recorded e.g destroying me but I never got her saying she would lie on tape)
We had been going to mediation and we had agreed contact with my son. But my ex then started sending me solicitors letters demanding cash before she would leave my house. We were not married and i owned the family house and we have a 5yr old. I had been corresponding with her solicitor and I had sent a final settlement and for my ex to leave on the 4th May.
On the 4th May I heard nothing from her so I went round to my house and I found she had moved out although she took a lot of my stuff without my permission.
I moved back into my house and that's when i got served with the papers. It transpires that she has said That she has had to plan her escape and flee for her life as when I find out she has gone I will try and get her back and or abduct my son. Her statement is full of lies that I pushed her about and called my son names etc. To give her story some creedance she went to a womans refuge who then put her in touch with her solicitor hence the order on me without my knowledge.
I have been to my solicitor and she has advised me to fight it, although expensive I think I need to do this as my understanding of a non molestation order is for her immediate safety, I have not been living in my own house for the last 3 months, I have always stuck to the agreements made in mediation and had my son every Saturday.
She has stated in her statement of truths that we had never attended mediation and we were still cohabiting. We have argued in the past and we have argued in front of my son but I have never touched her or my son but she is saying that I was verbally degrading her etc, yes I called her names in the heat of an argument but that's about it.
I am so stressed by all of this and my family cannot believe what she has done. I have spent about 8 hours so far with my solicitor and we are applying to bring the case forward.
My ex is so good at lying and will sound so plausible I am scared that I will not be able to prove what she has done to me. Also I have googled this and I read the horror stories of judges always siding with the women.
Please help me
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