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So,
After solving my previous issue of seeing my daughter after she was moved to Grimsby, I have had her back home for 5 days before dropping her off back home last saturday. From the second i dropped her off my ex was unwilling to listen to what went on while we were travelling, IE - my daughter had had a toilet accident just before we got off the train and didn't eat the majority of her lunch so she may need something to eat and definitely needed a new pull up, she just went off with her without even listening.
i tried calling, she said "you're not to call", hung up and that's the last i hear from her until i sent her a message asking how my daughter was, she replied with "you're not to call or text me" then stated that she apparently had to get a new phone because of me...
now, i've actually done nothing wrong apart from try to keep in contact with my child and obviously, no brainer, i have to contact her to do this.
I would like to know how i can go about getting a court order but here's the thing, I don't have her address, she refuses to give it to me. I am not sure how much it costs or how to go about it.
can anyone help please?
Hi rik,
I hope you've been having a good time during your daughter's stay with you. Its a shame that its becoming difficult for simple information to be communicated - you only want to explain things about your daughter's needs/best interests.
You asked about not knowing your ex's address... In another thread I can see the following advice given by our expert to another Dad Talk member who didn't know the address of their ex, so I think it answers your concern about not knowing her address:
If you are unable to find the address this is not a major issue as solicitor and courts have ways of locating people and may be able to use these to find the mother.
Also, you mentioned about wanting to know how to get a court order. Your previous thread has this bit of info which I hope is helpful Access and legalities
If this situation does get to the stage where you feel that it is necessary to apply to court, then you are able to download the required forms from http://www.hmcs.gov.uk , and these are the C100, CB1 and CB3. The C100 is the application for the contact order, and the other two forms are guidance notes and offer further information and advice that is useful.
When you file the application it will be at the Family Proceedings Court closest to where your daughter is living at the time, and this is usually where proceedings are held, and there will be a fee of £175.
Unfortunately court proceedings can take some time, and an average case takes between 6 and 12 months from beginning to end, although in the meantime you are able to ask for interim contact until the full proceedings have been heard.
Does that answer your questions? I think it should. Keep in touch with us.
I would have thought that withholding her address will definitely not look well for your ex in court.
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