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Can someone please give me some advice, I split from my ex at the start of this year, we where never married, we have a 8yr boy together, I am on his birth certificate and he has my surname, I pay her maintenance on a monthly basis by direct debit, and i currently have my son over night approx 3/4 times a week work depending. I have been in a relationship for some months now and my son has met my new partner on a couple of occasions, he mentioned this to mum and now she is refusing to let me see him if my new partner is around.
Hi Taylor and welcome
Unfortunately, this is all too common on here. Do you think your ex would consider mediation over this? If so, that may be the way to go initially, in which case I'd give the National Family Mediation a call on 0300 4000 636
Otherwise, you are looking at going for a contact order - have a read of yoji's guides at the top of the legal section, they will give you a good idea of what the process involves and how to represent yourself, which plenty of dads on here have done and will keep your costs down to the court fee (£200 or thereabouts, possibly waived depending on financial circumstances). Start keeping a diary of all events, conversations, messages etc, and whatever you do, don't rise to anything she says or does - if you go to court, you want there to be absolutely nothing for her to use against you. Also, don't be tempted to withhold maintenance - that's a separate issue to contact.
Forgot to mention, as long as you don't currently have a solicitor, we can ask our experts for free legal advice if you have any questions.
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