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Hi just wondering if anyone can help got home today to find that my ex has spoke to my partner saying she is going to stop me seeing the kids can she just do this even though I have been having them stay at mine every other weekend for asmlong as I can remember. And also it seems that it is grandmother that is putting these ideas into her head please please please help me I will be lost without the kids
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear this, unfortunately unless you have court ordered contact then she can do this.
Have you tried talking to her about this, what are her reasons and is she aware how much this will upset the children?
It's important that you don't just leave it, if you can't talk directly to her then write her a letter and ask her what has brought this about, remind her that she is punishing the children by her actions and that as their father they have the right to have you in their lives.
If you can't sort this out with her then the first step would be to try mediation. Don't ask her if she would attend, just make an appointment and get the ball rolling, after your initial appointment to discuss the issues the mediator will write to her and ask her to attend. Often this enough to start the process of getting things back on track. Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
Legal Aid is still available for mediation and you can check eligibility here
www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
If all else fails the only option left would be to go to court and apply for a contact order. You will find lots of information about this in the stickys at the top of this section.
Good luck.
The reason being is that my son has had an invo to a party on sat. Which I already have plans for the kids this weekend. So it is if I do not take him to the party then I will no longer have access how is this fair
Hi Kevin,
Was the invite accepted by your childs mother rather than you? Im guessing it was the mother. She shouldnt have planned anything in the time you have contact.
I would weigh up the importance of the party to your son versus your already scheduled plans for you.
Would she really stop the children seeing you if your son didnt go to the party? Might just be hot air although its a gamble only you can decide on making.
If she does prevent your children from seeing you then the advice already given applies.
Good luck...I am actually in a similar situation this weekend although the stakes are not as high.
Regards,
Dave
...it's not fair, not at all, but it might be the lesser of two evils to try and accommodate her.... It's an awful situation and there's nothing worse than being held to ransom in this way but if it avoids your kids being kept from you .....
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