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Since my ex has started seeing a new man she's talked about moving 200 miles / 3.5 hours away as that's where his family comes from, taking my son with her, as she has primary residency.
I currently have my son stay with me 6 nights a fortnight and all his family, such as grandparents and aunts, including her parents are nearby. He's also settled at a local school. I have shared parental responsibility.
I've seen a family solicitor and barrister and been told I can't do anything to stop her. Has anyone heard of any cases where a father has successfully challenged a mother moving a son to the other side of the country? She's not a bad mother but I don't think it's right for her to limit my time with him in this way and I think it is bad for my son.
Unfortunately, unless you could prove in court that she was purposely doing it to make your contact/ relationship with your child difficult or alienate your child from you, then your solicitor is right. She is entitled to live her life the way she pleases (within the law obviously) . Also even if you did think she was doing it to be nasty to you (which it doesn't sound like she is? ) then that would be very difficult/ near impossible to prove. Sorry.
Seems very unjust though. If I moved 200 miles away I'd be told I was a bad father, but if she takes my child away nothing happens. The law seems to be out of date and biased.
Hi, yes its unfair but unfortunately she can. you could always try to go for residency and have you son live with you. How old is your son and where does he want to live . lives do change and its a shame when children are stuck in the middle. You can change your contact to a different regime. Holidays, weekends, maybe you could stay in the area over night to see him , its a sore subject but a parent with care cant be expected to stay put , they have lives to live to. It may delay her moving but she will be allowed to move . My sons ex moved and he now does a 200 mile round trip for a few hours contact.
my ex took my to 220 miles away. only knew after she moved. its very hard to have a relationship with them . after having them as much as u have it will be a big change .
im having problems as they don't want to stay over at mine , ex has poisiend them against me. just gotta be there for them. when they older they should understand then. what im hoping anyway
andy
Unfortunately the Law for Fathers rights is almost non-existant in reality..........Fathers4Justice and such like are still fighting to get equal parenting rights for fathers.........the womens rights groups got equal rights for women and dare i say it we fathers have become treated how women in the pre-equal rights times were treated...as Second class citizens! it sucks!
the thing to consider in any appeal against your ex taking the children with her is this.......what is best for the kids.....she will tell you them being where she is is best for them....and no matter what you say or do she will always say that....the courts should look at how settled they are and how much disturbance this would cause them to be moved away from you, their family and their friends etc...
if you could prove it was all about your ex trying to limit/reduce your contact with them then they may look at it further.
do a quick search in case law about these points.....i did searches on parenatl alienation and implacible hostility during my fighting my ex and came up with a few cases very simialr to mine where the ex was making it difficult/impossible for the father to see his kids.....worth a shot.....
like you say....if you moved away you'd be the bad guy!
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