[Solved] False Allegation of Physical Abuse

It's sounds to me like she's had legal advice and realised that as a house husband you'd be seen as the primary carer and therefore be more likely to get the majority of the care in any residence order. If you are the primary carer, you need to get the kids back into the house in your care as soon as possible. If the allegations are only that you manhandled your wife then there's no reason for the kids not to be with you.

You really need to see a solicitor ASAP too. My stbx made false allegations of domestic violence (not physical, but still enough to screw things up) and there's no way I would have tried defending myself against a non-mol order. I would suspect that they would recommend that you seek an occupation order which will secure you and the children in the house.

hi your story sounds alot like mine i to was house husband kids are 19 14 12 20 mths only different was i was unmarried together for 20yrs .she wanted out of relationship she agreed when we split in sept2012 that youngest can live with me and the other kids can choose where they want to live i was happy with this .the 12 year old wanted to live with me so the mistake i done was leave the family home with 2 kids about a month later she changes her mind takes the 2 kids back.the time i got solicitors involve was around january .thats when her she started lies im now so say violent abusive always have been i,ve attacked the 19yr old whos totally gone against me she even wants to change her surname now .she also says the 2 kids did not live with me for first month and the only reason i wanted my 2 kids was to get on council housing list easily it more lies on lies.any directions i can take ive been granted legal aid but it says only up to £1350 which seems no where near enough to fight this case

hi is the 1350 wot your solicitor said in a letter or from legal there selfs cause if from solicitor that only temp m8 till it goes though

from legal aid department

Ahhh....the old trick of abuse, they can't help themselves can they! I was in a position where my ex-wife told the police I was going to kill her and as such I was the one in trouble, I wasn't even near the house at the time of the allegation. You need a solicitor, are you looking at having your children full time or just for contact?

...My son who has Residency of his son has recently stopped contact with the mum, its going back to court...Anyway the point I wanted to make was the fact that she threatened him over the phone saying she would have him killed if he didnt reinstate contact. My son reported her to the police and she was given a warning and told only to contact him through her solicitor, but we will be using this in court.

I think Dads need to take a leaf out of these womens books and use the same laws against them.. I appreciate that men may find it hard to take this stance...its the old "men are the stronger [censored]" syndrome, but in my opinion in these times of equality, its gloves off and time to use every tool in the box, just as some of these mothers do! 🙂

I was going for full time, but had a change of view on it now, so want unconditional and flexible contact.

Women are equally able to use physical and verbal abuse against the dad and all I meant is if they do then report them for it. My sons ex threatened him over the phone and some would say it was over the top for him to call the police over it, but I dont think so and neither did the police as she was warned and told not to contact him directly in future and its logged against her with the police...it all helps!

The trouble with facebook is that its a social networking site and so I dont think theres much you could do about what she has done. Calling Social Services over something like that wouldn't help, they are only interested in serious risks to the children.

How did it go in court today essjaycarp?

don’t underestimate the power of social networking sites. At times this private message appears on public timelines jeopardizing personal life as it happened in the past..some users mostly in France reported private message appearing on public timelines.

Its a start of your ex’s irritation and getting on your nerve and testing your patience. If I were you, I will get in touch with those 7 people and ask them to report it to facebook, report will be treated anonymous. Post a news on your timeline about how ‘someone’ spreading horrible lies and ask them to ignore and report it. Your ex going against facebook Community Standards. I would have also tried giving her the taste of her own medicine!